Hi everyone, let's start with the base questions and then go from there, yes?

>where you're located - Portland, OR
>your age - 34
>how you got into "the game" - friend and his gf recommended Neil's book, read it

>how long you've been studying and practicing pickup - as far as PUA is concerned, possibly a few months, studying psychology, kink, and more for much longer

>which pickup method(s) you like to use - here to learn that. I'm pretty good with long games, have played with most of my female friends at events and such, scened or gotten naked with just about all of them, but I'm crap at short game seductions, quick pick-ups that become anything, and I'm constantly on the edge of 'friend zone'

>what your hobbies/passions are - photography, massage, hypnosis, programming, reading, burns, kink, writing, computer games, meditation, mythology, occasionally martial arts, occasionally yoga

>what your goals are - short game seduction and sexual escalation

>and whatever back story you wish to share with us.
So for the tricky bit. Although I am an introvert I don't have a problem with approaching women, I can start conversations with them. But I'm a tad crap at talking about the weather and knowing how to properly change things from 'new hangout buddy' to 'let's take this guy back in the bathroom'. I can even do number pick-ups just fine, last weekend I came back from an event with the 4-5 numbers of the hottest girls I saw there, just got back from a non-date with one of them. And given a long enough span of time I do usually end up doing mild scenes with most of them - a flogging here, nude massage with no draping there (sometimes they even pay me and schedule them, and never seem to mind that my hands wonder slightly), maybe even an occasional threesome or foursome or more-some with the girl I'm dating at the time...

But I seldom get that feeling.. you know the one? The one where you walk into a room, daytime or not, spot the girl you want, and know that you can kiss her that day, and that she'll want and dream about you, and that if you want to take her in the back you just can. I really want that. I have a wonderful girly right now - not a 10 in looks but so incredibly open minded that I'll take her over a 10 any day, and totally poly (unlike half my exes who just tried at it for my sake but weren't really into it - which is fine, each to their own). I want to walk into a room, pick out a 10, and bring her home with us, and show my girly I can hunt our meals with the best of them, that she's with the best person in the room and not just because she loves me. Does that make sense?

I don't want to ever hurt people. I don't do clubs or bars (too dull, I do plenty of sex-positive and kink events though) I won't want to put down guys for my own ego or to get off in some girl. I will not neg in a way that's actually hurtful to someone's esteem instead of just playfully teasing (I'm totally fine with teasing). I always want to leave off my playmates better then I found them if possible, and hopefully have them want to get back in touch with me. I don't want to keep making women fall in love with me when all I am actually looking for is a quick bit of play. But I do want to figure out that missing link that keeps eluding me... and I just discovered that there is an entire community of people with that goal, so here I am!

And I don't do drama. Won't get into anyone else's drama. Won't prop up drama. Will walk away from it so fast that if I did it in a straight line I could get the earth to reverse its axis

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Oh, quicky:
Loved 'The Game', awesome book, learned a lot from that

Did buy Gambler's stealth-seduction series recently and it is fantastic - I think its the reason I went home with the contact info of the 10s at that last event (I can normally get some contacts, but the event before that I'd gone home empty handed and feeling really down. Last event I was just in the zone and applied a lot of the stuff there pretty well, talking with some people I might have not approached before). Maybe just by its self this will give me that key that I've been missing... but let's mix and match anyway, shall we?

I am very very curious about going deeper into seduction-NLP. Already do hypnosis (the long version) so this seems like a natural next step

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