(Before I start, let it be known that I am a TOTAL newbie, so go easy on me if I've been making a load of mistakes!)

Background
Anyways, I met a cute girl at a party last Friday, chatted & flirted for an hour or so, before asking her out (which she agreed to), and number closing.

I send her a text after the party that night saying was cool meeting her etc, and we had a short chat before bed (all good so far).

Next day we get chatting, and when i mention us meeting up for drinks, she texts "I'm not interested in dating anyone SPAM. Think ur a nice guy, sorry, don't mean to flog u off, just don't wanna lead u on, blah blah". So fair enuf, I just reply with "I understand. All the best". So, I assume that's the end of that.

But then two days later she texts me at 2am at night (despite her having to wake at 7am the next day)- I answer her back at 3am, and she instantly answers, and we have a half an hour flirty text- convo. And then she ends the convo with "okay on that note, I think iv done what I had to and not end on a harsh note, night!"

Questions
So, my more experienced ladies' men, I need your advice!

- Why is she contacting me a couple of days after she apparently ended it with me? Is she still interested, trying to allay some sense of guilt she has, or trying to friendzone me?
- Why say "she doesn't want to lead me on", and then randomly start texting me in the dead of night, before waiting ages for my replies??
- What should I do next? Ignore her? Text her tonight, wait a day? and what do I say?

(FYI, she seems like quite a sheltered, "good girl" type- dunno if this affects anything)

Thank you for reading!

She is into you. Mirror her bullshit.

"It's all good, your a sweet girl, but not compleatly my type." "But I did seen something that reminded me of you today!"

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Its either what Heywood wrote above...or she's a nutty broad who loves the attention and KNOWS you were going to text her back at 2am.

But the truth is, whether she's using you for attention or not, there is SOMETHING there. Exploit that SOMETHING by making her work a little for your attention.

So the solution in both cases is for you to start getting her out of her comfort zone by being less accessible, yet engaged.

I think the response you gave was perfect because it didn't show any nutty neediness on your part. I think your reaction had a lot to do with her, in a way, reconsidering what she said. Or she was just looking for the D at 2am. REGARDLESS, you will find out whether shes bluffing or actually into you.

The good news is, your patience and chill answer to her direct answer to you probably forced her to see a different side of you. So there you go man, you already have a lot of this "game" down, you just need to apply it even further. The goal for most men is to get to a point where women come to THEM. This is a good example of that happening even after what you might have assumed as a setback/failure. You're right there man. Now just remember not to be in a hurry when interacting with her, because you don't want her thinking you're just chillin at the crib waiting for her specific ringtone.

And definitely use the ideas that Heywood gave you above/below. Let us know how it goes.

Good luck man

Thanks for the advice Heywood and Riri.

She started texting me again at 1am at night, and I just carried on being chilled.

After about 10 texts each, I tried mirroring some of her earlier bullshit (ur really sweet, shame that's not my type of girl).
Did another one later, saying "awww, ur such a loser", obviously in a jokey way (after she said she'd not gone out with her friends that day in order to study) - but she replied:
"ok, u may think that if u want. what u think of me is not my concern, i can't change it, so i'll just hav to accept that"

And then proceeded to go absolutely mental: "u calling me a loser is y i want to get to know guys first before going out with them. U could be a psycho for all i know- the fact that u called me a loser only justifies my decision not to go out straight away with u"

What. the. fuck. just. happened.

I texted back saying i was only joking, but no response from her.

-did i mess up?
-where do i go from here? I'm totally baffled...

If you fucked up she wouldn't be telling you why you fucked up.

Don't apologize... change the topic entirely.

She's nuts, or your delivery was horrible. I think she's nuts.

Do you really need to be with this woman? She sounds like a wreck. You can't even playfully jab at her without getting a playful response. Sure, could have been bad timing etc...but personally, I want to be with a girl that is fun and doesn't have a stick up her ass.

This seems to be somewhat of a lost cause because you didn't have enough rapport to tell a joke without getting her panties in a bunch. One thing to work on in the future is to incorporate more sarcasm and alpha-framing in your interaction so that you don't come across irrationally dick-ish later on. Let's be real, if you are just being super nice all the time and then out of nowhere tell her she's a loser, joke or not, it may end badly.

Kino works the same way. She's ok with the touching/making out later in the night (in many cases) because you did a good job of sexually framing her and getting her comfortable.

Any progress since?

seems pretty simple,

She wanted your attention as an orbiter as other posters have pointed out. How did you fuck up? You no longer played that role, so you had no use anymore. So you didn't fuck up, wasting any more time on this chick would have been fucking up.

If I think a girl is wasting my time in a selfish way I just get highly inappropriate and sexual with her, then its get blown or blown out, either way it's fine.