We broke up because I chased too much. Though she's always gotten in touch pretty much once a month since the breakup to check in, when I showed interest mid-December she said she didn't think it was worth pursuing. Then a couple days later I actually ran into her for the first time since the breakup, and she started pursuing me. I pursued back a little. She goes home to Cali for the holidays, and texts me every once in a while, and I'm polite but just tell her to get in touch when she's back. She waits 3 days and tried to schedule a date for the following week when she's back by telling me when she's free. I tell her to grab wine and head over to my place and we'll cook dinner. She comes over, we eat, drink, talk, and have sex. On the way home she texts me thanking me. I reply and that's it. 36 hours later I say:

"Hey! I want to see your sexy smile again. When are you free this week to get together?"

That was yesterday. Now nothing after 24 hours. Is this a test? Is one text showing any interest too much? Can I simply cure this by backing off?

I realize that I just comforted her by putting her on more solid footing and it's going to take longer to get her to wonder where she stands with me, but if I've sent that and I totally go dark, and I mean completely dark, how long does it usually take them to start pursuing again?

We're not facebook friends and though she added me from Cali over break (then canceled when I waited a couple days) I told her that I'd rather hold off on facebook and I don't really use it anymore. She mentioned Snapchat as the last thing she said to me after getting home the other night ("if you had snap chat you would have just received a picture of me in bed going to sleep"). I wanted to set this up so that the only real way that she gets to interact with me is if she initiates herself by phone or text or responds to me. None of this other digital crap.

By the way, my plan is just to wait it out. If she crumbles and responds eventually, I'm pretty much going to repeat myself: "Hey, I'd love to see you. When are you free?"

She has you wrapped around her finger. Any time she wants you you're there. Does that sound attractive? I mean anytime I want a diamond I can just take them whenever because they're all around right? Oh wait no. I can't. Because they're not.

You should seriously cut this girl off for your own sake and start dating. Otherwise you'll be holding out for someone who is just toying with you and confused about what she really wants.

What do you want? Do you want to perpetuate this SPAM or do you want to date a girl that gives you real commitment? Do you actually like this girl or are you just so emotionally attached that you're blinded?

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Is there a way to shake her off the pedestal and help her realize that she doesn't have me wrapped around her finger?

She eventually got back to me with her availability. I set a date for last Thursday. Then she asked if she could be blunt. I told her to tell me on Thursday or to call me. She let it go overnight. Then she wound up saying it's nothing, but she just remembered she had plans (nonsense) and couldn't meet on Thursday and she'd let me know when she was free. I told her no problem, let me know, have a great week. Then a day and a half later she asks me when I'm free. I wait overnight then give her my availability, and now it's been a week.

I have only sent one text each time. That's it. Then I walk and never look back.

I'm strongly thinking of ignoring the next time she gets in touch.

I dare you!!! But you won't. The moment that scarce pussy is available you will cling onto it for deal life.

This is NOT a sticking point. Read the forum rules at the top of the page. Dump her and move on while you're at it.