Hi

So I started an online dating profile a few weeks back and this girl sent me an interest request. Now her name was a random one and she didn't have a picture up.

I sent her an email on that Saturday to accept her 'interest' and simply mentioned how was she doing and how's her weekend been so far.

Anyways no response until Monday, here's how it all went (names changed):
Monday:
Her:
Hi Jeffrey
Sorry for the late reply
Hows it going ? My name is Sarah. Hope you had a nice weekend.
I'm not entirely sure how to go about this - want to tell me a bit about yourself?
Cheers.
Me:
Yeah I know what you mean.
Well, just for being late, you tell me about yourself first

Tuesday:
Her:
Hey,
Fair enough - I'm 25, grew up in Some_City went to uni here as well. I work at a government office in the city as an analyst.
Ah hobbies - I love to travel just came back from a big holiday, sports mainly cricket , reading, cooking ( no not really lol)
U ?
Me:
Looks like we both are aps bludgers then! Joking. Yeah I work in Some_City. I am actually from Another_City but been here for about x years.
Yeah I love traveling as well. Came back from Some_Other_State a few weeks back and overseas prior to that. In terms of sport I like swimming.
..I can also cook some dishes...what about you? And pls...don't say coffee :p

Wednesday:
Her:
Coffee ? I'm probably better at making tea lol
Hey I used to work at department of finance in Some_Small_City.
your right though - working in aps jobs means at times your basically getting paid to get bored. And you get more leave than everyone else. Which is a bonus.
How was Some_Other_State? - I haven't been there since I was a kid. Prefer Some_City to Another_City?
Me:
Yeah Some_Other_State was great, I stayed in City. Met up with a friend in the Another_City and did overall sight seeing which was nice.
Now regarding whether I like Some_City or Another_City...I've been asked that question literally so many times, but it never gets old. I like Some_City since I am getting paid and I've found the people here to be generally friendly.
Where in Some_Other_State did you visit when you were a kid? You mentioned before you like travel, if I bought you a ticket to anywhere in the world where would that be??

etc.
etc.

Friday:
Her:
Way too much on my bucket list ...
I like nadal a lot he's an amazing player... What about u ??
Women's tennis probably li na... Hope she wins it
If course I watch game of thrones it's awesome. Walking dead - I've watched a few episodes. Will admit it freaked me out but isn't bad.
Me:
Nadal's opposite => Roger Federer
Federer's game tonight should be interesting, I'll be watching it.
Hey I'd like to continue this conversation in person, what's your number?
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Now after that last conversation where I asked for her number no response yet. Some of you might be wondering why I didn't ask for her photo, this was intentional as I did not want to come across as being someone who is superficial, but I was planning on asking for her FB on the phone and asking her out for drinks on the phone - but I never got the number.

For each day she only responded once, so if I responded to her email with an open ended question on one day I can expect a response the next day - not on that same afternoon...That's just the way she replied - probably trying not to sound desperate or whatever...

Now so far I have not bothered to chase her up via email.

So guys what is your take on this and what should my next move be, if at all?

Cheers!

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Ok some interesting news, she emailed me back today and gave me her number suggesting we could meet up this week. She apologized and her reasoning was she was out of town on the long weekend (even though the dating profile said she was active).

Anyways I figured I'll text her tomorrow to get things rolling and ask her for her facebook as well as let her know that I'll call her in the afternoon to meet up for coffee the next day. I'll do the 1 hr date, just let her know that I am free for only 1-2 hours.

(technically this is true, have assignments I have to complete and hand in online).

So how's the approach?

Not bad, not bad at all. Now you better get your game on and get ready for the date. Good luck!

So I've arranged a coffee meetup for coming Monday.

Yesterday I asked if she was on Facebook, just a incognito way of knowing how she looks like without making it look that obvious. She would have picked this up as she mentioned she doesn't use fb often and that if I want a photo she's more than happy to send me "something."

I txted her today asking for a pic of hers because I wanted to make sure that "I don't walk past you on Monday..." She's responded about 7hrs later with "Of course I will email you something soon."

Now I am not going to respond to that...but guys what are your takes on this?

She maybe on the "mysterious" type of thing trying to check you out how bad you want her. Not seeing her picture, what she looks will make you want to see her more right? You are so eager to know her physical attributes.

There are three things why she is doing this. One, she does not to put her picture on public for security reason. But you joined a dating site, its already given people post their picture out on the open for the members to see. Two, she wants to be this "Ms. Mysterious" type of girl. Three, she might be playing around and want to break guy's hearts by setting up a date and a no show.

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Yeah you have a point...I asked a friend of mine on what her take of this girl is and she also mentioned she's trying to be mysterious.

Regardless I get the pic or not I'll text her on Monday if she can make it or not - if I don't get a response I won't waste my time buying a train ticket to go to the city.

@jane
I am not sure if you're a guy or a girl but your analysis was spot on. Cheers!

Ok here's an update, so after 2 days of me not responding back to that last post she texted this afternoon that she's sorry and that she can't meet up with me on monday since something has come up. But she'd like to meet later on in the week and she is happy to come to the same suburb I work in if I want.

But no news of the photo.

I am not quite too sure what she's trying to achieve with this...what do you guys think??

Cheers

Another update!!

We had our first date today, I think it went alright. Personally she looked a bit 'panda faced' (tired, zoned out after work) and kind of like she "wanted to get it over and done with." She's a 7.5.

She told me that her work is very busy as she does work for the treasurer and is under strict deadlines. It took her about 1hr drive to meet up with me. She also said that I am the first one she went out with on the site and that she hasn't talked to any other guys (btw she sent me the interest request first).

I took her out to a fancy coffee shop and we started talking. I think it went okay, I got her laughing here and there. It felt as if I had to drive the conversation forward throughout most of the date as she would seem to be a bit lost for words on what to talk about but she did respond to my questions. For example when I asked her "What she does on weekends?" she responded but she never asked me the same question to keep the flow of conversation.

There were some silences but I did fill them up with imaginative questions like "what's your idea of an adventure?" etc.

Personally I felt relaxed, not tensed. I always maintained eye contact and smiled. She seemed nervous as she had her arms crossed for a bit and moving her hands now and then.

I set a 1hr limit for the date and told her I had other work to attend to prior to the date. When I told her it was nice meeting her and that I have to leave she got up immediately and said the same thing.

I told her that I would like to see her again and she said "yeah sure sure I'll text you."

Regardless she texts me or not I am planning on calling her up on Monday/Tuesday and see if she wants to go out for dinner/bowling on valentines day.

What do you guys think??

Thanks!