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You have to ask yourself, "what is value?"
Value to a woman varies, obviously, but here are just a few that you can "display":
- Looks (clean cut hair, glasses, high fashion, a watch, jacket, cuff links, neckties etc.) all display higher wealth/class that are not necessarily connected to money but more-so "style."
- Stuff (cars, watches, apartment/house, swarovski top hats...) all represent your actual wealth.
- Confidence (tempered speaking tone, sense of humor, body language) represents mostly that you know your way around women and that they desire you.
So what is it that she wants? Will she find value in you being ultra-masculine? Or is she looking for a guy that is a bit more in touch with his feelings and wants to deconstruct Woody Allen films? Not all girls are the same, so you have to cater to that person to an extent.
"Displaying" in this case is the act of showing by not showing. And by that I mean, saying "Most of my friends are girls actually" instead of "Girls have always loved me." Body-language-wise, the firmer grasp you have, the more value you will present just because the people will think you are desired based on your calm, cool demeanor. The value is that they assume you are *insert positive trait.*
See, women are pretty positive when assessing dudes. Women build men up (explains why women find personality a much more important trait than men) while men break women down (often-times we start high, end on being "bored"). Its fundamentally why women and men don't get a long at the end of many relationships.
Point is, displaying high value to a girl used to seeing d-bags or guys that dont know what they are doing is great news for us. This sets the stage for DHV to be FUN. Because you should look at every girl and assessing her wants/needs and studying her behavior so that YOU have a more informed way to attacking the situation. She says she loves jazz? Start listening to Coltrane and know enough to make an off-hand reference in conversation next time.
Body Language is by far my favorite form of DHV because that means somebody is judging you based on your actions only.
Take a few tips from Social Dynamics and follow a few general rules:
- Let her talk AT YOU, not the other way around. For example: Don't put an arm against a wall and lean up against her. Get your own back to the wall so that it seems she is talking at YOU.
- Have female friends. Those friends are an indication that women like you. You may not pass the gay test, but its clear that women trust you. And that is HUGE. She'll figure out later that you are...huge.
- Have fun. Smile a lot to indicate that you are fun. People want to be with people who are fun, very simple.
- Walk with confidence. Get those slumping shoulders un-slumped and walk with a purpose. Not saying you should walk around like Johnny Bravo, but wider shoulders indicate more masculinity and more importantly, Safety. Safety is one of those things that serves a few purposes: it shows her that she can be safe around you, that you have good genes; thus her innate want to be sexual with you.
Body language is both repetition as well as using good examples. You must have a few alpha-male examples that you like (Oceans Eleven, Wolf of Wallstreet etc.) where the guy exudes confidence and sexuality. You can't look like Brad Pitt or Clooney, but you CAN mimic there style and adapt it to yours. They ARE doing something right after all.
Hope this covers a few or your questions
Thanks mate, great post!