So I met this girl at work,we are both 25, we worked in different places at work and I didn't speak to her until 3 months of work together. When we finally did meet, I played it cool, she gave me many ioi's asking how long I've been working because a lot of the coworkers "loved me" (most are female) and was surprised that it was my first year working there. I mentioned where I worked before and she told me she lived there, another ioi.
Anyway, she would come up to me at work sometimes and I one day when she was at work (her last day actually) we happened to be walking out together and i got her number. She now works maybe 1 day or 2 a week at the place I do because she works at other stores in the area. We don't cross paths too often, even while working togehter. Anyway, she said text me when your # so i have it.
I text her my number later
Her: haha got it! mad you have a flip phone so I can't text you smiley faces!
Me: don't text me too many words either or my phone might blow up
Her: haha, p.s. so suprised your name is (my name)
So I arranged a date with her the day after xmas, she actually cancelled on me once because she was getting home late from a trip with her friend. So i text her the day of and she asks what time and tells me she doesn't want to be out late because she drank a lot the night before
Me: I thought you were a hardcore drinker
Her: haha I had 5 shots last night and didn't go to bed til 5am!
Anyway I finally got her to come out earlier, at 5pm that day after a lot of work.
Me: So do you make all the guys work this hard to take you out or only the ones you like? lol c u later.
Her: hahahahahahahaha
Anyway first date was chill.
a lot in common, we both like to travel like sports, she says that she's going away on vaca soon, says she'll text me a pic
I didn't actually game her that much. End of date, went in for kiss, I pulled back and said " alright see you at work later." She gave me a bit more of a kiss and said "you sir are a good kisser the asked me "we'll do something soon?" I said yea sure.
She texts me later saying
Her: Thanks for drinks!
Me: you're not a bad kisser yourself
Her: just no bad!? huh...
Me: I'll teach you the ropes, I'm even better in bed
Her: That's exciting
I like that you're confident
I don't text her after that then she texts me on new years eve 4 days later wishing me a happy new year. I text back an hour later when I see it "you too".
I text her two days later cracking an ins!ide joke about a coworker
Her: hahahahaha you just made me laugh so hard, I told you so!
Me: she told me that she was going to have to report you to (manager)
Her: no stop it lol
Her: are you serious?
Me: continuing busting her chops
Her: your an asshole!
I stop texting
45 mins later
Her: how are u?
Then later that night she texts me first and its very playful.
Me: Have fun shoveling your driveway tomorrow (huge private driveway)
Her: haha my dad has a plow
Me: he goes to easy on u. if u wanna watch football with the boys, you gotta shovel snow with the boys
her: well we know you wouldn't go easy on me, not that i mind
Her: so am i going to see you again besides at work?
Me: yeah, how about monday?
Her: K
she actually cancelled again, moved it to tuesday but she texted me about it and asked me if tuesday worked.
she initiated texts twice on different days before 2nd date. she even texted me a pic of her in a bikini saying "i would buy it but my butts too big." I didn't fall for it. didn't compliment her.
I was serious in some of the text exchanges, usually started out cocky/funny but then was serious through text. i had a good balance i think
Anyway, second date there was a lot of kino, I went hard with the game, busting her chops, it was very flirtatious. She has a lot of guy friends, a huge social life, and I'm not sure I conveyed enough value in that area to her. I asked her craziest place she had sex (movie theater). She is very confident, very sexy, she knows it, a lil full of herself, things got pretty sexual, she's even telling me that guys don't know how to pull her hair correctly (from roots)
she asked me about my weekend, I actually went to a strip club on saturday which i never have before, and she says she wants to go with me and my friends next time. says she'll wear these new stockings she got for me.
a lil about her: was a bartender at one point, one bf in college (tall, tattoos is all i know, prob alpha male) didn't date in hs cuz she says there was no point. our waitress was actually her ex's friend. didn't really talk about her ex that much besides that she's into tattoos now because of him, she has hidden tattoo from parents on hip. rich, spends all her money on clothes and posts pics on instagram, just a very confident girl, deep sultry voice, classy not slutty, never breaks eye contact, just gives you that look with her eyes that oozes sexiness
ioi's
when we sit down she shows me a groupon travel package for australia where i said i wanted to go
she kept talking up her butt because she asked me who my fav celeb was and i said kim kardashian.
but then she asked me if i'm a boob or butt guy and i said honestly "boob" so she's saying "Well I'm a c cup, theyre pretty big, you just can't tell with this shirt. me: yeah,yeah
her resting her hand on my leg,
when i put arm around her after i busted her chops she leaned her head on me
she asked me if i had dimples on my other cheek
asking me if every girl plays with my hair
lots of eye contact
her busting my chops a bit
she gave me a pen where her dad works
red flags
I asked her if she wanted to see this concert with me and she asked "who were you going to take?" I told her this other girl (who i mentioned I'm seeing but I didn't talk about it) or my freind and she goes "oh, just go with them then."
I wouldn't even ask to see her on weekend cuz she's always visiting college friends.
other red flags:
she can drink more than me lol, not really, but she thinks she can
she smokes sigs, used to do pot, I told her I never messed with that stuff
We walking out, I walk over to her car, we met there, and she pulls me in close cuz the car beside us is backing out. So I look into her eyes and say "I think you just wanted me close to you, I wasn't going to get hit."
(ok, this my make my sound like a douche here but I am very confident and smooth doing stuff like this, making the move, I just want to make sure you guys realize that)
We make out outside of car, things escalate, I'm taking her bra off, rubbing her pussy, she's into it, I open up her back door and throw her in car, I take her pants off.
Small lmr from her, so I say "alright I'll see you later" I open car door and she reaches for my pants, unbuttons them and gives me a bj. After I cum, she has a cigarette in back seat and says "wow, this was only 2nd date. You'll never look at me the same at work again."
We talk for like 5 mins then I tell her I have to go, ( I had to stop somewhere before going home, so I really did).
I text her when I get home.
Me: thanks for the pen, it was a nice touch (as a joke)
Her
Her: Goodnight.
no texts from her after that, i texted her last sunday, no response. havn't really seen her at work. texted her last wednesday, she replied 45 mins later. texted her just now an inside joke, pretty sexual too, no response.
I know it's over but why. I'll say that I'm a shy guy, looks aint the problem, but I have pretty smooth game after reading up on pick up, and i'm fully comfortable with girls one on one.
What happened? was it just a fling? I had so many ioi's, I really don't know why I couldn't get 3rd date.
Every time she cancelled a date, i texted
me: alright no worries
her: but i can do next week!
was she all about the chase? maybe i was too sexual which was a mistake because I work with her (and she prob didn't want to jump in too fast knowing that we see eachother occasionally) I know she can get any guy she wants, extreme confidence in that girl.
please let me know what happened! I know she's gone, just need to fix my mistakes.
Thanks so much guys.
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