Hey guys, I could really use some help here. Don't take the title offensive here, since this is a "creative" translation of a word people in my country are used to. It means a girl is only in to getting attention, but not really willing to go for the next "steps".
So the situation is as follows. This girl is extremely hot, not do I only think so, but 11 other male friends as well and when we're in a club a lot of guys step up to her. She usually talks back to them, in an extreme case even.for over an hour and a half. At that point you'd think she's into him, why talk to the guy for that long when his intentions are absolutely clear? The only reason I can think of she wants all the attention and nothing more. I believe she's still a virgin and kissed maybe a few times or not at all, but that's me thinking, usually I'm right about that stuff, bit still.
She's the kind of girl that gives you all the right signals, but when you try to go for the kiss she makes you doubt if you should do it, because the chance of being rejected springs up real high instantly.
I opened the topic in this section, but I'm not really sure if it belongs here. Apologies if I did it wrong.
So I'm a guy that really is'nt afraid of talking to girls or taking them home or whatever, but this girl makes me sometimes. Maybe the first time I really fall in love, who would ever thought that! :p
Anyway I'm her coach, she is one year younger than me, before you think I'm pedophile :p, I'm 20. But since I'm one of her coaches and it's a team sports I'm afraid I might damage that relation when I go to "far" and get rejected, that would damage the relation with the entire team. So we talk relaxed about the sports and things like that, we go out with the entire team regularly etcetera. She sometimes is a little nervous around me, but I'm still not sure if that's because she's into me as well, because she did the same thing to a friend of mine in a club one night, where she does it multiple times around me.
So I wanted to ask you're help to find a way to pick her up in a way that wouldn't hurt the relation with her and the (all girls) team if I'm rejected. It doesn't have to happen in one night, but I want it to happen (a)
So many thanks in advance.

This seems like a pretty tough situation...

It would be good to no the full details of your coaching like where your sat in terms of responsibility and how long term your position is with her. the reason it would be good to no is because this will effect how the pro's and con's weigh up in terms of if you pursue to approach her and it ends badly how will this effect your coaching not only to her but other girls who have heard about it...

In my opinion the route that offers the best rewards in terms of risk would be to gains a very close relationship with her by investing conversations in her interests and thoughts, she seems like a girl that is short of a friend to listen to her and talk to her about her interests which is why she is resorting to having "hour and a half" convos with random guys at clubs with no intentions of going any further...

This would work best because you say you go out with the team drinking alot and if her feelings do develop for you over time then when out drinking and having convos that you would normally have in the day mixed with some alcohol her feelings will show through and you have seem enough IOI's it will be best for you to make a move and even if things dont go as planned you can pass alot of the blame onto the alcohol...

This may not be the best suggestion for you meerly my opinion, I would also like to see the angle how others would approach this situation.