How does anyone get around this? I was friends with a hb8 for years ended up sleeping with me, we fell out, I was afc heartbroken, didn't get her back etc etc now she's got a new fellla. I've improved, got myself a top job, got myself in serious shape and I'm now getting a lot of new women involved in my life through advice that I've gained from the community, let's just say I got over the relationship in the end, it's been 8 months since we last spoke and she got rid of me on social media, deleted my number, never wanted to talk to me ever again bla bla.

Anyway, out last night and I'm in one bar and it turns out she's in another bar down the road. Half of my group (girls and boys) move on from the bar I'm in to the bar which she is in. They meet up her by chance, now here's the problem. My best friend said before he could even open his mouth she immediately asked where I was and then decided to have a 10 minute rant at him about how I f***** the relationship up, blew it etc. He said he couldn't get a word in. Fair enough, but the girl I was gaming that night managed to hear all of this and questioned me about it when I met later on. Let's just say she lost all interest by this point.

So I'm getting haunted by the ex who hates my guts and is doing a good job of getting in my way even now, luckily I handled it well and didn't make a negative comment about her. How do I prevent her busting my balls in future though and messing things up for me, or even more so, how do I go about it if I'm questioned by a hb in the social circle?

Any help would be greatly appreciated guys because I flopped big time last night! The ex also disclosed details of our sex life to my friend last night, nothing bad, but wtf?? Wonder what her boyfriend would think..

You handled it in a good way not talking trash about her. When your friends hear her talking trash and you being cool about it, who do you think will look cool and together and who will look on the verge of losing it? That's right, you will be the cool, got-it-together guy and she will be the bitch that's bad-mouthing an ex.

About the girl you were interested in that overheard the discussion, if she asks any questions, keep this in mind: I've had recently a convo with a chick I'm gaming that tried to dig up the dirt between me and an ex. I told her simply "What happened between me and my ex is private and will remain that way. I am sure you would want it kept the same if you were in her place". Killed the trash talking before it even started.

Right now you have the higher standing, keep it like that....

I had a similar situation I played it cool and came out on top. Just remember no matter how bad you may want to lash out if you keep cool and do not react to her comments you will always come out ahead. What happened with me is I had an argument with a guy it got heated, but once I calmed down I just brushed it off he went on fb and made a bullshit slanderous public post. I texted I knew it would be in my best interest not to react to it so I text a mutual friend he wrote a professional comment not bashing anyone. About 20min later I got a 5 paragraph apology on fb. I never lost my cool now this guy is nice as can be to me and goes out of his way to try and be my friend. I showed value and maturity by not reacting. He showed the opposite by making a ridiculous post on fb.

Now I know that situation is different than yours, but the principal is the same so hopefully that helps good luck!!

Nice way of going about it Gunfighter, I'll be using that approach. Personally I'm glad I got away from her in retrospect, can't imagine how her boyfriend would feel about it all.

Oh well, I'll never stoop to that level. Maybe I have moved on further than she has.