Hi everybody, it's been a long time since I came on this board.

In the past, I met a few girls with which I became friend. When the two of us were single, there was no problem for planning an activity and going out with them. The problem is when they meet an interesting guy and fell in love. After that, I hardly receive any call from them.

My question is: Should men continue to build friendship with women or if I should put more energy to build friendship with guys instead?

Thanks for your comments and advice!

when i was starting out as a pua,being told let's just be friends hurt me most..since my early days i have gotten better but i still i do mess things up sometimes when a girls just wants to be friends..the problem with guys being friends with girls is mostly guys do not want to be friends.so they are using the friendship tag as a sort of game which makes the friendship look like superficial..for experienced guys i am sure they can handle being just friends with hot girls cause they know they have other chicks to deal with but for beginners and intermediates like us it can be a bit challenging..For me i really do not bother being just friends with a girl unless we go to the same class..the other girls who i meet and want to fuck but who still want to be just friends,i just stop having long conversation basically switch to a boring mode and cut down on the outings we have together and every time they say they want to go out,i just pretend to be busy..and i think any guy refuses to be just friends with just a girl is morally wrong, why should the chick get her way? isn't that just selfish on her part? food for thought...that is just my two cents.

i think only experienced pua's can be just friends with girls,they're able to only use them as wings and not develop oneitis or shit like that.

Thanks guys for your comments. In fact, she is a young and very attracting lady. When I met her, my interest was up but I discovered after a few dates that she saw me as just a friend so it was ok with me because I changed my attitude toward females in the last years and don't care much about them.

The only thing is that I'm loosing all my female single friends when they find a new boyfriend so I was asking myself. Maybe it's better to not waste my time with female friendship and concentrate my energy toward male friendship.

Make friends with hot "taken" girls. They make good wings and also their boyfriends won't mind you hanging out with them

A lot of girls do this not just to their male friends, but their female friends as well. They get a boyfriend, and he basically becomes their life.

I've always had a majority of female friends. Even when I was a child. But I constantly moved, so having the same friends for years wasn't something I ever considered. Do some of my female friends disappear upon having a boyfriend? Yep. But they're pretty easily replaced. Plus, once they break up, back into the friend rotation they go

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I seriously have tons of girls as friends. It doesn't really matter, they can be great wings. I usually hook up with some of them sometimes, but I act as if nothing happened the other day.

I'd say go for female friends, I'm sure it's way much better going into a club with 2-3 girls instead of pure guys.

But what if I'm loosing all those female friends when they have a boyfriend. It's not wasted energy? Is it not better to concentrate on guys only for friendship?

Keep a good rotation of girls on the go and you can replace the ones who ditch you in favour of their boyfriend.

Aim to befriend girls who have been with their boyfriend for more than 2x years, so that they are way past that infatuated honeymoon phase. Hot chicks with boyfriends have hot friends. Don't become the manly chode with only guy friends.

They'd never ditch you if you were a good and fun friend.

Gotta disagree here. You'd be surprised how some people get when they finally get a relationship. Some girls and guys drop EVERYTHING - friends, hobbies, activities, family, school and going out. I know people who became shut ins with their gf/bf - crazy, but it happens.

As another poster said, girls do this to their girl friends as well. IMO, it says more about the person than yourself. If they're that desperate to change their whole life for a guy they just got that's a bad mark against them. Find friends who aren't desperate for a man and who enjoy their own life. If she hasn't been in a relationship for 3 years, she's on match, eharmony, okc and pof looking for love and always talking about "the one", yeah she will drop everything once she gets a guy.

Thanks again guys for your help.

I think, from your answers, that I should continue to build friendship with females but not spend too much energy into it. I should put more energy into male friendship.

Of course it can work out.
Im in the same situation at the moment. Met this hot girl at work. Shes a solid 8, awesome body, long dark hair, i went out with her a couple times and it took me about 2 hours with her to realize that this girl is nothing im looking for. I mean she has a great body but thats about it. I have no sexual or romantic interest in her at all. Dont get me wrong she is really nice and cute and i love to hang out with her but there is just nothing that makes me want her physically. Its difficult to explain. But as already mentioned, a hot girl like this can open doors for you. When im out with her i can literally see and notice that other women be checking me/us out, and she also has some hot girl-friends as well so its a perfect situation.