| You have some good ideas, but there are some fundamental flaws.
1) Your first point, I completely agree with. You want to have credibility, be a man of your word. However, don't get into the vicious cycle of overplanning and her expecting attention. You'll become predictable and boring. As a guy, this makes perfect logical sense to us, but kills attraction over time. Make your plans, stick to your word, but as a hard working guy you have priorities outside her.
2)"Blocks" of time? See "predictable and boring". I'm not sure what sort of job you have, but whatever the job may be work time is time for WORK. Not texting, calling, social media, what have you. You're showing a weak passion for your career, you're compromising something that was previously important to you for something new. A bad quality. Talking to friends/family/girlfriends while "on the clock" is for emergencies only - if it's really that important, they can call you on a "work phone". Speaking of which, if you have a job that isn't "on the clock" then start treating it like one. In a sense I agree with what you're trying to say, but you're only half-assing it. 50/50? How about 100% work when you're working, then 100% girlfriend when you're with her?
3)I get what you're saying, but it all sounds so... lame. Matter of fact, let me just conclude..
First off, Rookie, you've got one total post count here. Nobody's going to take a topic like this seriously until you have hundreds if not thousands - the post count is the only concrete way to show experience with PUA forums (in addition to account status such as moderator).
Second, it sounds like you're still in this "must please the woman" mode. "Nothing sends a girl into a spin faster than seeing a ready with no reply message". Why is this a bad thing? If she's interested, shes asking questions to herself like "why didn't he reply? was it something I said? was he too busy? am I coming off too boring or clingy?" just like every other AFC on these forums. So now she's thinking about you even more... again, how is this a bad thing? Granted, sometimes you may feel that if you don't reply immediately, you feel like you're indecisive or neglecting her, but I almost guarantee that's just your incorrect perception. Reply immediately to communication when you have time and they are interesting communications. It sounds like you have a very REACTIVE approach to dating, rather than an ACTIVE one. Reply to messages when YOU want to! You're in this trap of thinking that pleasing her right now, giving her what she wants right now, it going to work in the long run. I'd be willing to bet that these women are just testing you to see if you're a challenge, and you're making SOME effort with what you've conveyed here... but SOME is not enough.
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