I'm finding this is a real constant sticking point for me, and I've lost more than a few sets because of this I think. I'm 6 foot 3, so quite tall, and I weight 235lbs (am a bodybuilder). This means that I can generate attration and ioi's from a distance but I'm finding that (more during the day is this a problem but still an issue at night too), when I approach girls I get this "woah what the fuck, I'm out" reaction from girls. I don't come in heavy and I'm super calm and relaxed when I can be but it's like I'm just too far out of their comfort zone and they often times don't hook long enough for me to just say one or two sentences. You put all this effort in and it doesnt even help you

Is anyone finding something similar? Im working on keeping myself centred and super calm when I approach but I'm getting this a fair amount now

As a 5'6" fairly thin man I got a lot of satisfaction in reading that lol

honestly ilove my body and all of that won't change but I think things would be a little easier if I was smaller haha. every day game set I'm in (that lasts longer than a couple of seconds) I literally say "you look terrified haha, I'm not crazy/dangerous/scary/etc" and by addressing the elephant they visibly relax and loosen up slightly.

alpha game anyone hah

i dont think thats being alpha, i think thats being intimidating. first off, great job shooting the elephant in the room by telling them not to be scared. I really think they are intimidated by you because you make them feel powerless.

i have a buddy whos a great pua and a body builder, he doesnt intimidate them because his personality is really playful, like a 16 year old. he is cheeky, yet dominating. he would talk to a girl, make her giggle, then he can literally pick her up, put her over his shoulder and walk away with her (even if she is with her friends) her friends panic but she is still giggling. after a few meters of running, or going behind the nearest corner with her, he lets her down and holds her by the waist then kisses her.

the fact that he picked her up and pretended to steal her makes him playful, his confidence makes him alpha, and he isnt really that intimidating when hes laughing and smiling. hope this helps.

if you seem scary-counter with immature playfulness

I would make two points:

1. regards to your inner game - it doesn't matter how tall/buff/handsome you are! that's kinda the whole deal with game. You relate their reaction to your appearance which is the wrong way to think about it. Also; because of your appearance and as you have become self-conscious of it, its possible you are gaming in such a way that's not congruent to who you are e.g. a huge buff guy gaming with intricate opinion openers and no kino, etc

2. regards to your outer game - I would wager that you not being able to hold a conversation with a girl for more than a few sentences has nothing to do with your appearance. More likely it is what you are saying and this is something that is easily fixable with learning a few openers e.g. "if you thought your boyfriend was cheating on you, would you check his phone/email" - a girl could go on for days talking about this!

So in summary, when out and about, forget what you look like, don't be self-conscious, say whats really on your mind and learn a few openers/routines/tricks and just keep practising. Happy gaming!