My GF has many guy friends, and I simply do not believe a guy and a girl can just be friends. Eventually along the line of their "friendship", in my experience, one or the other or both will catch feelings. I've already told her multiple times about how I feel about this, but it does little to help the situation. She told me she was going for a walk with this guy before, and I always catch her flirting and stuff with this other guy, and I find that quite disrespectful considering I stopped talking to all my other girl friends to devote myself to her. What I am currently doing is ignoring her and focusing on my own hobbies. Do you think that'll give her a chance to wonder why im acting somewhat distant and miss me? Please tellme what you guys think.

If a girl disrespects your relationship, dump.

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First and foremost you shouldnt have given up talking to all other girls for her. You should be able to maintain relationships with the opposite sex and still remain faithful to one another. Expecting that one person gives up all contact with the opposite sex is just jealousy in disguise and will not create a lasting situation. If you expect her to the same then you may have jealousy issues you need to look at as well.

Now on the other hand, if you honestly think she is being overly flirtatious with this guy you should bring it up. If she doesnt recognize what she is doing and take steps to correct it then she is trying to manipulate you by making you jealous. Or she is just love bombing someone else to keep her options open. Or she is a narcissist and needs to have attention from multiple people to feel complete.

Really there is no excuse for what she is doing. Dump her and go no contact

Yeah, I would never give up on my female friends just because I have a girlfriend. This is stupid, and it is stupid to expect that from your girl too. I think this relationship is not going to work, if you can't tolerate that your girlfriend has guy friends because she clearly doesn't care about the fact that you don't like this. Better end it before someone gets even more hurt.

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I have given up on my female friends before for a girl and it was the worst mistake I ever made. I didnt even care that my gf had male friends, she wanted me to give up my friends and I was dumb and weak enough to do it. She did not, however, give up her male friends. The fact is that you cant make anyone do anything and you cant keep anyone from cheating on you by controlling their actions. Relationships are built on trust. Trust means letting her do her own thing and that includes making mistakes. Now, if either of you make a mistake then you have to man up and deal with the consequences even if that means kicking her to the curb.

There's a difference between being friends and being "friends". If your chick is going on walks and flirting with other guys that's just wrong. However, the way you go on you would think she can't talk to another man ever in the chance she goes off with him and cheats?

Shit man, that's ridiculous. You need to get to grips with that. Men can have female friends and women can have male friends. The only issue you should ever have with that is if this guy is inviting her out on mini-dates and flirting with her. That's all down to her. She needs to set the boundaries and keep guys at arms length.

I have three sisters and here's my opinion. Your girlfriend has no respect for you. The thing is; when a girl is dating you and has guy friends, that's already a flag, you KNOW this already but let me go further. She's gone on walks with this guy (inappropriate) and she's flirty with him (inappropriate). A girl decides how far she will take things with a guy in the first ten minutes. There is something about this dude that she likes and is drawn to, even subconsciously and if you've tried to tell her that it bothers you and her answer "i'm not going to stop being friends with him", she's made your decision for you. On to the next. When a girls in love, she's devoted to her man, period.

That's a load of crap and that's your problem. You believe things that aren't true.

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How is that a flag? This is just stupid. I seriously can not count how many girls are just friends to me. Most of them have relationships, many of them have been together with their boyfriend for quite a while. I even know some of said boyfriends, and a small portion of them mentioned that they were jealous of me at first, because they assumed I was just a player after their girlfriend's pussy. I told them that I have absolutely no reason to be after their girlfriends because there is an endless pool of single girls I can choose from. No conlict ever since.

Do your sisters sleep around with their guy friends? Even if they do, I doubt that they're telling their boyfriends about the dudes they are banging.

Anyone who has met several women in their life should know, that it is very rarely the "guy friend" she talks about to you, with whom she would cheat. Most of the time, it is "the lover" that you haven't even heard of. It's really a special case when these two types are the same person. And as I have said, it's very uncommon.

I'm starting to get sick of these double standards anyway. We guys are allowed to have female friends to keep women in our lives and avoid getting needy, but a girl is not allowed to have guy friends, because that's disrespectful, that's red flag, she's definitely banging a couple of them. Ffs, to all the guys who are saying this: you either:
a) met only the biggest sluts in the world
b) push your girlfriends into cheating with your neverending jealousy all the time.
c) are sexist insecure chumps.

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Agree here. It's sad that PU makes guys so paranoid about everyone trying to sex their girlfriend. Every guy friend is trying to fuck your gf...and your gf will secretly fall for her friends. Real life seldom works like that. However, I DO believe that ALOT of guy friends and attention seeking/flirtacious behavior is a red flag.

Personally, I won't want my gf flirting with other guys so I can understand the OP on that point. Everyone is different so if you have a relationship boundary it should be respected. You shouldn't have left all your female friends. If she's flirting and going on walks with a guy, she's not my gf.

I agree with this. What caused me to get pissed off was that general statement that "when a woman has guy friends it's already a flag". In this case it is really a flag because they are flirting, though we don't quite know about how serious that flirting is. I mean... I know people who consider "How was your day, up to something bad?" flirting.

Also, when you keep telling your girlfiend that it bothers you, that she has guy friends, I think it just makes things worse. You can not forbid her to meet her friends. It's so disrespectful, that you can not expect anything else, but disrespect(eg flirting with other guys) in return.

And finally, I have said it earlier. This relationship is not going to work. The reasons, ordered by time, are as follows:
Reason #1 OP set ridiculous boundaries and kept acting jealous.
Reason #2 OP's gf(unsurprisingly) didn't respect these boundaries
Reason #3 As a result of OP's bitching, she started flirting with another guy.
Reason #4 Finally, this girl has lost all respect for OP, and will continue to disrespect him from now on, no matter what he does.

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Yeah I completely understood what you were saying, just added 2 cents on what i'd consider a real red flag
And yeah, guys consider flirting anything that has a smiley face at the end so much of the time it could be friendly conversation.

Alrighty there Killa. lol What I should have said was "many guy friends''. Yes, my sisters may have a guy friend here or there but none of them has "many" guy friends. They have male acquaintances, who they bump into when they're out but none of them have "many" guy friends as the posters girlfriend does.

Think about the words friend, associate, acquaintance. Most girls will text a guy friend once in a blue, meetup in a group, that sort of thing, in my experience. But a girl who actually treats guys the way you would expect her to treat her girlfriends; talking about intimate things, sharing in intimate things and texting/talking daily or meeting up to go out. Those are very different circumstances.

SO, my reply was directed at the type of girl who has "many" male friends. I'm sorry, in my humble opinion, I don't want to date a girl that has that many guy friends. I'm not insecure, but I'd definitely want to know why she doesn't have "many" female friends. A tomboy is one thing, this girl flirts.

I don't know. I know a couple of girls who are quite fedup with female friends because they are always bitching and are not as trustworthy as guys, so they choose to hang around with guys, and in fact, most of them have more guy friends than females. This is just a type of girl, but I find them also to be probably the most loyal type. They are really valuable most of the time for both relationship and friendship. But this is just my experience with this type of girls.

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