| Hey man, if you really are not happy in this relationship, you have two choices: either end it OR start cheating on her with other girls. For the past five months, I was seeing a girl and was still doing things on the side of her. It sounds to me like you're telling yourself that you want to walk away but you don't REALLY want to walk away. If you REALLY wanted to walk away, you would have done it without seeking advice. So this sounds to me like the girl you've been seeing has been doing something you're not cool with YET you're still hanging around because you got oneitis. If this is the case, then there are two possibilities: either you are strong enough to walk away or you are not. If you are, great: LEAVE. If you aren't, then, from my experience, what will happen is, the girl will eventually grow tired of YOUR unhappiness and become unhappy herself; and then, sooner or later, SHE will leave YOU. If this is the case, TRUST ME, it's fine too. I don't know if this is your first relationship or not, BUT, regardless, if you are dealing with any sort of ache or pain after she leaves, the only thing you can do is brood and be depressed until it subsides. My advice, contrary to most other PUAs', is to do whatever you feel compelled to do. If you feel compelled to text her afterward, then DO IT. If you don't feel compelled to contact her afterward, then you're already WELL on your path to getting over her. Eventually you will develop (if this is your first breakup, it will not be this time; but it will happen on your second breakup I promise), the strength to walk away from a girl you are not happy with. And when this happens, I promise you you will become HEARTLESS and therefore next to unstoppable.
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