I'm almost halfway through The Game by Neil Strauss.

Just yesterday I was at this new year's eve party. I was being active and the center of attention, but there were a lot of people there, so I didn't approach the girl I picked as my target. Her constantly being with some friends I didn't know didn't help either. A couple of times our eyes met and I gave her a big smile and tried to look condifent. Maybe that did the trick, because some time later she approached me and we started talking. I wasn't sure if I got her interest so I tried not to seem too interested in her too and joined the party instead of talking to her some more. After this it was a weird game of either her following me around or me following her around in the house. I tried to casually kino her and that's when I got the IOI I needed to build up my confidence. From there everything went uphill. By midnight we were comfortable kissing each other in front of other people and about an hour later we got a room with a lock so we spend a few hours there and went to second base. In between kissing we talked a little bit and I think that's when I failed the most.

She seemed very interested in where is it going to go from there. Eventually she somehow subconciously forced me to admit that I fell head over heels for her. I think all this conversation made me lower my value. We had already agreed to meet again on saturday previously. When I asked her about us, she said that she wants to meet me on a non-party environment and see how we match up being sober.

Eventually the party ended. When she left I was still sleeping. She woke me up and gave me a kiss before leaving. Today after returning home we chatted a little bit online. She didn't seem as interested as I wanted her to be so eventually I just left.

This girls is 9/10 intelligent and interesting. I would really like to have a relationship with her, but dating is my sticking point. I have no idea where to take her or what to talk to her about. In general it is extremely hard for me to keep a conversations with girls on dates and usually I end up being dead silent or even awkward. Also worth to mention, this girl and me have literally opposite interests and very different personalities. She is very straightforward and blunt.

I really don't want to fuck this up, maybe you guys can help me out and give some advice or pointers on what to do next?

Sorry for bad english

She obviously sees qualities in you that she likes otherwise she wouldn't have wanted to see you again sat, you know they say opposites attract. For me if I was you I would take her bowling somewhere loud where the silences aren't so apparent, also plenty of conversation starters in the alley........how geeky the shoes are, maybe you hear a song playing you like/hate, conversations about the bowling crap shots/good shots, be stupid like pretending the balls too heavy and you need her to give you a hand lifting it, good way to bring her in close or do a stupid dance before a throw. These little things will help you get comfortable with her and then after you can take her for a drink and continue working your magic all the way to the next base

You forced an IOI. Immediately you set yourself apart from everyone else by making contact with her and keeping your frame as you did it. I do this all the time now and it works really well on confident and attractive women. In those cases you can let them come to you.
It doesn't matter if you have similar interests. If you're passionate about something and can talk about it without boring yourself she'll be interested. Don't put so much pressure on talking and don't worry about where to bring her. Be unconventional, do whatever and act like it's not a big deal to go where you take her.

She wants a date? Fine. Bring her to a bar for a drink or two. She said she didn't want alcohol involved but that just means she doesn't want to be fucking hammered. This chick wants a relationship. One or two drinks is fine. If you don't want to do that just bring her for a walk or something. Take a walk, talk, share funny stories and don't be afraid to ask her about herself. It's day 2, you can ask about her and let her do all the talking.

I'm starting to see the more I make a big deal out of it the more I am likely to drop my spaghetti, so I'll try to lower my expectations and just have a good time. I'm also watching this video about the upsides of being an introvert in dating by Chief and it has some really great advice. I'll probably just take her for a walk in the park or to play some pool.

Thanks for the feedback, I'll let you know how it goes

*edit*

Ok, I just thought of this little plan. The girl I'm meeting has a song posted on her facebook that I think she likes. It's called Morgen - Love

I know the staff of the place I play pool in. I could go there the day before the date and ask the manager to play that song at a specific hour when were there and hopefully when the girl notices it I would be casual about it and pretend I had nothing to do with it Would it come off as a considerate gesture or would I seem desperate if I did this?

Trying too hard.

Forget all the romantic blitz crap and just focus on enjoying yourself with her. Setting up songs is just too much and shows way too much interest. You'll scare her off if you do stuff like that. Maybe keep that for the third date when you know you're going to fuck her.

Ok, another question. I'm pretty sure the girl wants me to message her, but doesn't message first. I had already messaged her first 2 times in the past 2 days so I'm holding my ground so far. What do I do?

Dude, i'm new to text game myself. I suck at it but the one thing I learned is not to give a fuck if you message her first when you're starting out with her. It doesn't matter as long as your messages aren't needy and you're not sending her two messages at a time(Unless really long and warranted messages) and give ample time when you reply to her.

Honestly, at first I felt like a dick taking two hours to reply but I seen the results. It made a huge difference. Different game. Before I would do whatever and not get too high interest but i've had it right now where a chick has been inviting me out with her and clear "date" drinks she was invited to by other guys and gone as far as to offer to give up those plans to spend a night on the town with me when I took my time to reply and told her my own plans with no regards to hers.

In short just initiate conversation until you hook her after a date or two, then take away your interest and have her longing your company/communication.

One more. We were texting and talking about how different we are. She mentioned, that I would be a great match for a friend of her I know, because she's a lot more like me and lot lot less like her. Somehow this feels as some kind of clue to me, is this a negative signal?

Man, girls are a pain in the ass. She's trying to set you up with a friend? That's so lame.

I wish I knew how to help you there but any advice I would give would probably blow it completely.