So its been a while since i was in a legit one on one relationship (by choice) and the last one i was in, i had no idea about value, body language, being the alpha and all the basic rules. I was a newb and didnt know about the art of attraction. i played the perfect bf role and obviously it didnt work out. since founding out about the pick up artist community, i didnt want to be tied down to any one hb, but i found that i cant help who im attracted to (or at least i havent learned that skill yet). so my question is how much do the rules change from trying to pick up women to being in a relationship? i guess what im asking is do you change any of the basic rules if your going exclusive? i mean i wouldnt be texting hbs other than the one im seeing which would make it a different lifestyle. but do you stick to your guns of how you attracted her in the first place or do you go into a different mode thats not being a perfect bf that doesnt get appreciated? any advice would really help. thanks

I'm not an expert on this, but when in a relationship, be an alpha version of yourself. Don't be a dick for the sake of being a dick, but stick to your guns always, don't be agreeable just for the sake of it, have your own opinions & values, keep your hobbies, see your friends & family often, keep a healthy distance from your relationship at times and value your own down-time. I would also suggest you don't play your girlfriend off with other women or try to make her jealous.

The most important thing to remember when in a relationship is to NOT BE NEEDY. Trust your girl, but call her out on her shit if only necessary.

Just my opinion, I'm sure others have ideas. I've only ever used pick up to get K-closes and F-closes, past relationships I've had from just being a confident, good guy, with values, hobbies and healthy relationships with my friends and family.

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I agree with Slick_uk. You need to trust and value your girlfriend as a person, without being needy. Affection can not become an obsession, but you should avoid mind games, and stupid shit like making her jealous. It is also important to know, that some of her "bad behaviours" may be a fault of you, by doing something stupid. And if that is the case, it is inappropriate to punish your girlfriend. Rather accepting your responsibility, trying to have an understanding of the problem, being able to communicate this effectively, and work out solutions together are crucial for a relationship in order to last long. Maintaining a relationship(especially a monogamous one) is a lot more difficult, than just picking up girls. I don't know where you currently stand, and it is really important to get THIS kind of experience too, though if you shouldn't settle down with all the girls that are eager to, if you currently lack the inner game.

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Thanks for the advice. I've been playing the game for a couple of months now and this girl stands out from all the other ones. I'm thinking about making it exclusive between the two of us, I just wanted to make sure that I can show affection without coming off as needy. That usually is my problem with my past relationships is coming off as needy. Im more confident in this one so far and dont want to seem like a dick, just find a nice balance.