Obsessing over one girl is a sure sign of female scarcity in a guy's life. That is most likely the reason for the obsession.

Nail on the head.

That's why I was saying that she's not even that pretty, I don't even know her. That's why I knew something was wrong, because that's not a logical thought process.

I only made it this far in the topic. You know why? You ask for help, people ask questions, and you disregard them. It's like I'm reading something my 15 year old self wrote. These topics are why GFTOW exists.

Jaorpennies... dude I feel your pain.
I have the exact same problem with my ex girlfriend. I had a long distance relationship but the distance became a strain on the relationship and she started dating other men. Now she has a boyfriend. The worse thing about it is we work for the same company, I will be transferring to her site location soon and be in the same workspace as her.

Every morning I reinforce me frame and get myself built, because I know the obsession is the old me, so I have cut it loose and build a new version of me. Being the she has a new boyfriend means she herself has rebuilt to a new frame for herself where as I am stuck on my old frame suffering for it. This is something I struggle with and I can identify with you. I don't see it as creepy but like you human nature. However what is helping me is reinforcing my frame constantly and integrating that I don't need her and whatever interaction I have with her while I work with her is either work or I am amusing myself.

The first thing I will be doing once I am on location there in about two months is building High Value very quickly because I already know I am not on equal plain with her anymore. By getting other women to have good rapport and laughing with me I will build that high value quickly. More importantly I must maintain my frame as the new version of myself in this way by not needing her, if I flirt with her for amusement, then I am starting all over again with her as opposed trying to bring back the past so that memories can revitalize and rekindle the flame. That will not happen! New Version of me vs. New Version of her and the game starts anew.

So Jaropenneis start writing down what your frame is going to be and tape that shit to your walls and read it out loud to yourself multiple times a day. Rebuild your frame and create a better and new version of you. It will go long a way. I am going intensify it for myself with NLP and Self Hypno you might consider the same.

Good Luck

I don't suggest this guy to ever get near to NLP, unless he gets his shit together. It is just not suitable for unstable people. Also, you need to know your mind and read your own emotions exceptionally well to be able to do a good self-hypno. I don't know about you, but I can tell that OP is clearly not on that level.

Besides, your situations are very different, because you're obsessed over an ex, while he's obsessing over a completely random woman. I consider the first to be a problem, but a pretty casual one. However I consider the second to be out of ordinary which is caused by a very bad mindset.

Building the frame, as you have suggested will only work if the frame has a strong basis. That's meaning an abundance mentallity. Your plan of building a high value life is really good, and it points towards the good direction, and that's what we have all been suggesting here, but he wouldn't listen, and I'm still waiting for valid reasons why he is afraid of "getting addicted to gaming", if he starts seeing multiple women, and what exactly that means anyway.

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Look dude. She's not that into you so grow the fuck up and obsess about something healthier. You guys think girls find you as hot as hell when many a time it couldn't be further from the truth. If you're so fucking wonderful why isn't she with you you daft cunt. Honestly you're all so full of shit and damn creepy with it. Keep obsessing over someone who couldn't give a flying fuck about you. Yeh that sounds a really intelligent thing to do asshole. Nevermind getting over her. Get over yourself. You 'ain't all that so deal with it.

I agree with the sentiment, but that's just so horribly worded. There's nothing alpha about belittling others.

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You again? Don't you have anything other to do than beating on inexperienced people here? It's not the first time I see it. Why are you here, if this is all you're doing?

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