So I meet this girl who's a friend of a friend months ago, at the time she had a boyfriend but we enjoyed each other's company. About 6 weeks ago I meet her out again and get chatting to her turns out now she doesn't have a bf, my mates are really drunk and I'm kinda pre-occupied with them......but still get her number. We text a little, but I'm busy and don't get a chance to date and the texting between us fizzles out, mainly boring replies from her. Anyway two weeks ago I meet her out again in the pub, I ignore her at first, but after a bit she is drunk and comes over wanting to know what I'm up too...we chat I tease about not going anywhere she's going etc. my friend is in her company that night and we are supposed to be meeting later I can't get a hold of him so text her to see if he's still there I keep it to only wantin to know about him and say my thanks after. She texts and says to come meet her in x pub so eventually I go, the two of us hit it off and spend the whole night together going various places, I'm going back to stay at my friends trying to take her with, but she says no as his gf will be there.......that night she's taking loads of pictures of us together and I wake up to them in the morning. I txt a bit in the morning and were chatting away, I think let's not miss the boat this time and ask her out. I suggest a day but she is going to the cinema with friends, I suggest another day and get no reply I give it two days and text her saying are you sending snail mail blah blah she laughs and says I can meet her in a club on the Friday. On the Friday I'm out with friends anyway in the area, we have a bit of teasing back and forth after that in the wk. the fri comes around and I msg her she says she might be going to a different town, so that night getting tipsy I text saying you coming to get me, eventually she ends up in my town at a pub across the road. I'm with work mates so don't want to ditch them straight away for a girl, I give it a couple of hours and go to the pub, but she's gone......I try getting in touch, but no luck. As the night goes on I'm really drunk and send her a couple of filthy txts (schoolboy error) anyway I think my chance is gone and I text in the morning saying I can't believe how sober I was last night........hope u had a good one ? She replies no I ended up at a house party full of idiots, wish I had came got you? At this point I think I'm back in, we text a little more in the morning. Out the blue at night I text saying so tomorrow any plans? Want to do something with me......I'm thinking some bowling might be a laugh and a couple of drinks? Let me prove to you there is a life out with idiots! I get no reply the next afternoon I text so I'll come pick you up at half seven she laughs saying no tonight I'm hanging about with the idiots. I send a reply along the lines of don't be stupid ur missing out on fun and if ur worried about going out with someone so much better looking I can wear a bag over my head. She just replies saying listen to it and sends me a few kisses. I reply light hearted and get no response. So today I msg her merry Xmas, just a standard one I sent all my friends saying If we haven't had a drink we will get one soon. She replies within ten with a cheeky reply to the first part of my msg and then says have a good day probably see you in the pub soon for a few festive beers. I wait a couple hrs and reply withsomething witty....as yet no response.

Sorry for the long winded post, but this girl has a hold of me at the moment, I know yous are gonna say next her........,but I actually think she could be the one, anytime we have been out there is a real connection, I know it's there and I think she does too, I'm just struggling to get her out on a date alone. I don't think I tried to kiss her the Friday a couple of weeks ago when we were really drunk and I'm wondering if that's what put her off...we we're drunk so I might have. She keeps referring to that night out in msgs so I know she had fun. A couple of other things of note she is taller than me and real skinny i joke with her bout being so skinny and I'm chubby so she jokes with me bout that. I wonder if the weight/height thing is killing my chances? Is it the time of yr that putting her off for a date? She seems to love me when were out drinking, I just can't get her on board for a proper date. She is stunning so I'm worried she gets picked up sooner rather than later, so not sure if playing it cool on this one is the best play. I also wonder about asking her out again so soon, seems that's all I'm doing with her.

Anyway guys your thoughts on this would be great, I could really do with some help in the right direction?

Hey man don't freak out! You are the man here and you should have the pants on (at least until you see it apropiate not having them if you know what I mean haha).

I had the same problem with a girl a month ago. She wanted me to ask her out and then she would say things like "I am too busy" "I will be exausted"... Bullshit. They just want to increase their selfsteem by knowing they are still wanted by man.

Try using her game. Don't reply or text her for a long time and if she initiates texting (like what happened to me) use very short replies. I know its hard but I think its the only way of getting back the value you have lost by asking her out more than once. After a while you can try saying something like:

I am going to x on xxx feel free to come but you owe me a round

I know I shouldn't freak out, any other girl I wouldn't I would just next, but there is something different about this one! Prob just need to do your playing it cool card, hopefully she is just after a confidence boost and gets in touch soon!

Anyone else got any tips?

Back off a little, you are texting too much and asking her out too often.. Go out, have fun, meet other woman.

From what i read you may appear too needy. Leave her alone for now, if you had good game she will initiate the contact again. But dont try to organize a date if she does. Just have fun talking/texting with her.

So basiclly my advice for you is to lay low and let her come at you. Dont be needy and dont push her into meeting. Raise her interest again and then try to setup a spontanous meetup.

One-itus my friend. She isn't very receptive. Just forget about her for a little while and meet more women! The more you push the more she pulls away. Let her chase you a bit.

Cheers for all advice guys, she text Saturday, just decided not to bother replying, see if I can spark some interest again!

Getting other woman isn't a problem I have about three others on the go just now, it's just the one I want I can't have at the moment, horrible situation!

This.