| Swagman has got the right idea. Basically, you have to have leadership skills. Being a leader is tough work, you will have to have a plan most of the time and you will have to round up people to be part of your social circle and your social circle activities. It doesn't have to be as stressful as starting up a club (I recommend you do, it teaches you how to run an organization), all you have to do is arrange for people to get together and always have an idea for what you would like to do with them. Most of the time you will get questions such as "What time are we meeting up", "Where are we going",or statements like "Come on man, you go first", so be prepared to have some courage on your part to make things happen.
Throughout my college career, I have been the unannounced leader of my group of friends. I had decent social skills and people recognized that other people liked being around me, therefore, they too followed that pattern and before I knew it I had created a social circle without even thinking about it. People would come up to me and start talking to me, I would get random invites, girls would try to hound me to see where the parties are at, etc.
I learned these 5 practices of leadership in a college course I took my Junior year. Here they are. Apply them to what you want to achieve. Ask yourself questions and the answers will come to you. I'll help you with the first one.
Model the Way
Leaders establish principles concerning the way people (constituents, peers, colleagues, and customers alike) should be treated and the way goals should be pursued. They create standards of excellence and then set an example for others to follow. Because the prospect of complex change can overwhelm people and stifle action, they set interim goals so that people can achieve small wins as they work toward larger objectives. They unravel bureaucracy when it impedes action; they put up signposts when people are unsure of where to go or how to get there; and they create opportunities for victory.
Model the way- Your goal is to create a social circle in which you want to be a leader of. What will you have to do?
Inspire a Shared Vision
Leaders passionately believe that they can make a difference. They envision the future, creating an ideal and unique image of what the organization can become. Through their magnetism and quiet persuasion, leaders enlist others in their dreams. They breathe life into their visions and get people to see exciting possibilities for the future.
Challenge the Process
Leaders search for opportunities to change the status quo. They look for innovative ways to improve the organization. In doing so, they experiment and take risks. And because leaders know that risk taking involves mistakes and failures, they accept the inevitable disappointments as learning opportunities.
Enable Others to Act
Leaders foster collaboration and build spirited teams. They actively involve others. Leaders understand that mutual respect is what sustains extraordinary efforts; they strive to create an SPAM of trust and human dignity. They strengthen others, making each person feel capable and powerful.
Encourage the Heart
Accomplishing extraordinary things in organizations is hard work. To keep hope and determination alive, leaders recognize contributions that individuals make. In every winning team, the members need to share in the rewards of their efforts, so leaders celebrate accomplishments. They make people feel like heroes.
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