Tripp,

I've heard of that from one of the videos about emotion. Good stuff. But is there more you can do that just tell stories? Are things like bar tricks and jokes achieving the same thing? Hmmm.... now that I mention that, I don't know how well that portrays the DHV spikes a PUA wants to portray while DHV'ing.

But you get my point. Is there anything you can do besides just the stories.

Curious..

Who is Cali Tripp?

That would be me! LOL!

I'm the wifey.

Is it a good thing or bad thing that you asked about me?

~Cali

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Well, the other really effective thing to do that would get across the SAME DHV spikes would be to have wings/pivots with you to DHV you. If you don't have that, the best DHV spikes would come from stories. You can use things like some magic tricks to entertain the group, but it won't DHV you as much in the end, they'll just be entertained. Of course, they'd STILL want you to hang around, but then you'll still have to DHV yourself too.

LOL. As she said, beating me to the punch, she's the wife . . .

Dear Tripp,

1) This girl I've known for a month says she's sending me a Valentine's Day card. Does this mean I should send her one too?

2) I don't get how you're supposed to do takeaways in comfort as opposed to calling her out during attraction. For example if she IOD's you in attraction you IOD her back by negging, but in comfort I hear you are supposed to do a mini-freeze out instead and takeaway. I think this is geared towards building a seriousness that is required for trust and connection, but I'm not sure how I can pull it off without coming off as a jerk. After all, we've been negging and teasing each other the whole time, and it just seems incongruent for me to suddenly freeze her out for doing something that we've both been doing for hours and hours.

P.S. Hi Cali, how've you been. Please give Tripp a high five for me.

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Hi, Roads. I'm good. Thanks for asking. I'll let Tripp answer your questions, but I had an idea for your Valentine's Day delimma . . . Why not make your own card and maybe put a little neg inside.
~Cali

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Hey man. We don't talk much anymore, unfortunately. Good to hear from you again.

Ok:

1. Depending on the mentality of the girl . . . if she thinks she's a 9 or 10, I'd not only follow Cali's advice, but also tell her BEFORE you send the card that you don't know if she's earned it yet. If she's not a 9 or 10 mentally, then sure, just go with Cali's advice. If she's a 5 or 6 mentally, I wouldn't even put the neg in there . . . but I doubt she's at that level, considering it's you

2. Ok, yes, first of all, you could come across as a jerk, BUT if she is really into you, she will still want to qualify herself to you, to get you back with her. Don't worry about coming off as a jerk in THAT instance. If she's gonna be a bitch . . . you are allowed to be a jerk . . . got that?

Now . . .
"After all, we've been negging and teasing each other the whole time, and it just seems incongruent for me to suddenly freeze her out for doing something that we've both been doing for hours and hours."
I'm not exactly clear on this situation here man. If you've been negging and teasing each other for hours, what would change to make you freeze her out? If she's done something to gain the power, then obviously she needs to be froze out. But, if she hasn't changed pattern, but is engaged in the game, what is the reason for the freeze out? Sorry, but can you be a bit clearer on this one man?

Hey Tripp, been busy lately, sometimes I'll drop in the Chat with J and Par around 7-8pm EST weekdays. No doubt we'll talk again. Thanks for the compliment on my girl, I think she's cute too

For the comfort phase, I was referring to the fact that sources such as the Venusian Arts handbook mention that in comfort, any resistance or noncompliance by the girl should be met with a takeaway (e.g. look distracted, break off conversation for a few seconds, subtle body language) rather than a neg. However, this is kind of confusing if the two of you are constantly teasing and negging each other. If she busts your balls in Comfort, the books say you punish her for it by using a slightly different method than in Attraction...but she's just doing what she's been doing all along.

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LA, Cali Tripp:

Gaming a crazy girl.

I've mentioned her here before. She says she has low-self esteem, fear, anxiety, OCD, etc... she seems to have no problem having me believe she's not playing with a full deck. I like this girl because the one time we hung out, she showed me what a real firecracker she is. I like that. She's pretty and smart, too.

She gets back from vacation and texts me out of the blue:

"I'm back in town; let's get together soon, ok?"

We make plans, but then she cancels. This isn't the firs time she's canceled. I stop texting her completely for a week, then at 4pm last Friday text her:

"I'm going to (name of bar) for drinks. Meet me there at 6:00 so we can catch up. I only have an hour or so."

That's about the most non-AFC way of asking her out that I could think of.

She immediately texts back:

"Can't tonight. Some other time, ok?"

So where to go from here? Was it a mistake to ask her out at the last minute like I did? I figured if I asked too far in advance, it would give her a chance to cancel. Also, it's not as if she cancels so that she can go out with other guys or friends. I don't know her well, but she says she's lame and a hermit, and probably cancels because she would rather go home and smoke, shoot up, or whatever she does

I'm not ready to give up yet..

What and when is my next move?

You guys are the best!

Edit to add: She never answers her phone.

I think asking her to meet me at this bar is the most probable place for her to come to because it is on her way home from work.

What do you think about this: Next Monday, I will text her:

"You and I are getting drinks after work this week. I'm free on Tues and Wed, but only have an hr or so each evening, which day is best?"

BTW: I don't work with her, per se, but we both work at the same university, and both of us pretty much can come and go from work when we want.

Actually, what I would do is bust her balls right back. If the girl has a big frame, then you two can bust back and forth like that, and it will build the sexual tension and attraction even more. But then, if she steps out of line while doing that, THEN I would do a freeze out or slight take away.

No, it WASN'T a mistake to ask her out the way you did. Honestly, at this point, I think you're already giving her too much. But, if you want to drop her one more text, go for it, but I wouldn't even give her an hour. Tell her you have 30 minutes, tops. AND stress that it's her last chance. If she bails, she won't hear from you again BECAUSE you don't have time for that stuff. You need to put your foot down. You can't let her run all over you like this.

Whats your best advice for picking up cougars?

Tripp:

So, back to the girl with the BF.

I started texting back and forth with her today (fantasy style) about how her and I are gonna pool our money, go down to a used car lot and buy an 80's station wagon with the fake wood paneling. Then drive to Wally World with Aunt Edna on the roof.. and it's her responsibility to make sure the dog isn't tied to the bumper when we take off, and blah blah blah


Then I text her:
"Come hang out with me this Sunday for the Super Bowl. I'm going to --(name of bar)"

She texts back:
"Will see. Might do something with the family"

What kind of shit is that?

I don't know if she is still with him or not. I didn't bring him up and neither did she.