So, whats happening in my life recently.

To make a long story short,
I broke up with a girl I was actually in love with because I'm an emotionally unintelligent 19 year old college student.
She started sleeping with a guy she met at her new job.
I felt really bad

I can still get back together with her but I seek the advice of those who have been around this position before. She fucked this guy and was the rebound, at least I would be really hurt if that wasn't true lol.

Anyways, she still wants to date me but I'm not sure if that is smart seeing that she is now going to be seeing this new guy she fucked all the time at work.

Most these things are pretty common sense when you are the one reading and commenting instead of being the one in the shitty situation.

Is it normal for me to be really hurt and confused in this situation? Is it normal for girls to act this way after a breakup? Since our sex was so crazy I just think about her giving that level of performance to another guy and it makes me sick. I'm the introverted type which means I easily get stuck in my head and dwell on things like this.

by the way this happened two months ago already but I still havent let go of it. I posted here a couple times in the past but I dont even remember the advice i got, i probably didn't listen or else I wouldn't be on here again. my bad

Casually date her for the sex and pursue other girls if you can handle the jealousy of her fucking other dudes.

Believe me when I say your jealousy will be pretty much non-existent if she is just one of many girls you are fucking.

You're human, it's okay to feel hurt, we all do at some point and time. If you care for her, try to date her again, but expect that she might end up cheating on you again with this man she works with.It's probably best to move on in that regard.

The way I understand it she didn't cheat on him. If they do end up back together, he has no reason to expect the girl to cheat on him - that would be quite disrespectful to her.

OP, I believe you should let it be and move on. There was a reason you left her in the first place... You are only 19 so chances are, you will not end up with her anyway. It's mainly your ego that fools you, because someone else has something you used to have. Focus on the reason you left her, flirt with heaps of girls and improve your life.

the ego is a tricky sob, thanks for your advice. I have 3 options as I see it.

1) get back together with her and be upset about it for the rest of the relationship like a little poosy girl.

2) casually fuck her and sleep with other pretty girls... probably emotionally damaging to somebody

3) allow my egoic bullshit to pass and know that in the end I will slay supermodels. blowjobs.

THIS

ive hooked up with a lot of girls since this all happened and it doesn't really help that much, at least in the long run. maybe i need to bang hotter chicks.

First of all:
"Is it normal for girls to act this way after a breakup? " - you did sleep with other girls right ? Double standards much ?

"Is it normal for me to be really hurt and confused in this situation?" - This is normal. However the quicker you deal with it is the better since it's not going to help you in any way. Saying this I can understand you I've been to your situation.

I'll give you a 4th solution:
- get back together and be fine. As I see she did nothing disrespectful to you

ya as i stated it she did nothing wrong but i left a few things out. so after i found out she banged this dude she told me she was going to stop talking to him to fix things with me. found out she kept talking to him to "have another wine night" as she put it. when i saw her texts with him and told her that i did she said i "wasn't worth her time" probably an excuse to ride his cock some more. also she didnt leave his house until 7am when she stayed over and she was all exhausted the next day when i saw her and when i put my finger in her (unaware of what happened at the time) she was loose and i could tell. Imagine what this does to somebodies confidence. 3 months later still losing my shit over it.

then again i was a total dick during the breakup time pretty much.

do these details change anything or does the story still go how it went.

also after we broke up i was way too distressed to fuck girls i didnt even talk to any girls right away, that all came after she fucked someone else and i found out