Hey guys I got a relationship now for a few months.
In the beginning we used to chat a lot over our mobile phone's.
We used that too ask each other to come over.

Now she's talking less to me and most of the time she won't say anything to me.
And she never asks me to come over im always the one who has to ask it.
Last time I asked if she wanted to come and she would but 1hour before she sayd she wouldn't come over beceause she had a rough day and wasn't in the mood she said to she was crying so I asked her if I should come to her.
She said she diden't care if I came or not. (I went to her)
The problem of this is is that im driving myself crazy I asked her that night 3time's if she liked it that I was there I know it was not the good move but im getting pretty much gangbanged in the mind beceause of her.
Its driving me kinda crazy beceause I think she is losing interest!

I don't want to lose her and I really want to get the interest back!
Why? my problem is that she became my girlfriend in quite a bad part of my life, long story short im depressed lots of time's wat tend me to overthink BIGTIME especially about her I got angry at her couple a time's beceause she diden't reply and I know that is pathetic of me but im not in controll of myself.

She still say's she love me tough and she still reflects that when she is over tough, so I dont think all the hope is lost.

Does any one of you have any advice what to do and how to handle really could need it right here!
My problem isn't picking girls up but fuck man a realitionship is fucking hard..!

Sorry for the bad grammer but english was never my strongest point!

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I think you should look up on the forums how to improve your life. Looks, lifestyle, confidence, self esteem etc. You have a problem you need to solve, basically getting your shit together. This is not a quick fix.

The very best thing you can do now is talk to her about your issues and ask her why is she being distant.

Try not to get upset and have an adult conversation. Admit you have faults and will try your best to work on them. Nobody is perfect, but you need to get get your stuff together and you need to communicate to her.

AFC said it all

I agree AFC said it all. There are just a few things I would like to add because I have been in your situation before 3 years ago. Like AFC said, you need to get your shit together man. You are using this girl to close a gap you have, but if you dont close that gap yourself brother, she will not stay with you. I also fell in love with a girl while I was at the lowest point in my life, and got in a relationship, but in the end she left...You need to change your life, spend time on the hobbies you really like, and make new friends, go out more with people you enjoy being around. And you need to give less of a fuck about your girl, you are clearly smothering her. You need to give her more space, seek less validation, and work on yourself.

I know what we are saying sounds like the generic stuff you read here, but really you can do it!! Its not going to be easy, but right now you are your own worst enemy. Try being your own standard, your own hero, become the man you have always wanted to be, do the things you have always wanted to do. I am not asking you to change, just to become the best version of YOURSELF. There is a bit of psychology involved as well. You need to stop compulsively thinking about negative things, and things that YOU KNOW bring you down. Learn to just enjoy the moment and be free of your mind. "The Power of Now" is a great book that might help you a lot in that aspect. I didnt know about the book when I was in depression, but after I read it recently, I could see that I used very similar techniques as those mentioned in the book to get out of depression. And believe me, YOU CAN get out of it. I have a great life now, I probably qualify as one of the happiest people on earth and I am almost always in a good mood and having high morale, and its as if I wasnt even depressed before... I am happy to help more if you have any questions.

I forgot to add that your girl will see that you are working on yourself, and that should arouse her interest again. But you should work on yourself for your sake, not for the sake of trying to impress her.

Never ask a girl if she likes you being there, its a huge turnoff and sounds needy.

This.

I want to thank you guys because I came to a great realization. Before my girlfriend I had quite a game but my inner game was shit. I guess I felt really confident because I could get quite a few girls when I went out. But it was fake confidence I did not have real confidence, as said it was just to close the gap. Well guys since I posted this I have been working on myself and you would say it would take a lot of time. True! but I see the change's remarkably fast. I flipped my mindset completely wich took some time.

These last few day's I am happy when I am on my own, because I control my over thinking and the endless analysation which was way too much.
I actually did this by saying out loud "STOP!" to myself when I started over thinking again, this may sound weird but this really is helping for me.
As Doom-bringer advised I started reading the power of now, and I got to say im not very spiritual but this stuff helped me a lot I even started meditating and this helps me with the stressing I did a lot.
I go out with friends more and started to thinking less about my girlfriend.

As said before I used my girlfriend to close the gap which I shouldn't have done but I didn't realize my inner game was complete shit. I actually talked to her about it I told her my confidence was quit low lately and that I was depressed. Now I am building on my confidence again and I came to the realization that love is not a possession but something you have to appreciate. The funny thing is while working on my confidence going out more with my friends and being less clingy to my girlfriend, I am seeing that my girlfriends come's more toward me again.

In my period of being depressed and crafing 24/7 for my girlfriend my friend started to notice it too. I am a hugh party beast haha, I always love to go out with the boys but I started to enjoy it lesser and less until the moment I didn't like it anymore. I started to talk about my problem with my friends and they told me the past week they saw me change which is a good thing. I enjoy the party's again and im starting to feel good about myself again.
I started to act like the old me the charismatic me again and by acting confident and being charismatic again I started to feeling like it again.

Last spring I dropped out of school.
When I was at school I had a very busy schedule I was busy 7day's a week, and that completely changed when I dropped out. I had lots of free time I enjoyed a lot well at least at the beginning and in the summer. In the summer I hung out with friends a lot and met my girlfriend but after the summer my friends had to work and go back to school again and that was where the depression started I was lots of time on my own and I did have nothing to worry about except my relationship. I focused way waaay too much on it and that was well at least I think a great destruction for myself.

But I am on my way back again!
I start to feel more confident by the day.
Going to a Party is a party again.
My girlfriend still love's me!!
I start to love myself again!!!

I really want to thank you people for the advice and making myself realize I was a mess.
Im on my way back again !!

Peace out!

[BTW]
Sorry for the bad grammar my English is not my strongest point!

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Art is in the Eye of the Beholder.

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I think you should look up on the forums how to improve your life. Looks, lifestyle, confidence, self esteem etc. You have a problem you need to solve, basically getting your shit together. This is not a quick fix.

The very best thing you can do now is talk to her about your issues and ask her why is she being distant.

Try not to get upset and have an adult conversation. Admit you have faults and will try your best to work on them. Nobody is perfect, but you need to get get your stuff together and you need to communicate to her.[/quote]


^^^ THIS.

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