This girl JJ and I have been friends for a year. I never considered her because she has a boyfriend.
I know that her boyfriend and her are not having sex anymore and they fight in front of other people. I heard her say it to a friend at a bar and somehow I remember that.

In my group of friends she knows I date a lot of women. She (JJ) drunk texted and sent me a loong voicemail saying.

"Kevin(me) I miss you. When am I going to see you? I think you are very picky about who you hang out with but every time I do something cool with my boyfriend, I think you might like to do this thing with us and I wonder where you are. etc.. etc.. "
It was a 2 minute voicemail lol.

Btw, her boyfriend is a little possessive. He knows I'm good with women because he has seen me get phone numbers from girls while we hang out and he told JJ that.

In the past few months or so I was interested in another girl in the group and started asking JJ for girl advice etc, sending her pics of me before I go on a date etc and seriously always think of her as a friend... we got into it because she was telling me I eat too much meat. So I left the dinner and didn't talk to her that week telling her that my food choices are none of her business. She apologized. She said I'm a beautiful soul. She texted me every weekend about random stuff she is doing etc, sending me cute pictures of her puppy.

I asked her to hang out and she agreed. Then the day we were supposed to hang out, I got no call no text. I was testing her to see if she would show up or not. Then two weeks later, she texted "We miss you". I said hey I miss you guys too (LOL).

I said hey sorry I've been busy. (Totally ignoring the fact that she flaked). I told her I had an art show I'm helping a friend with and texted her a cool picture. She always says she misses me but I don't know if she means it as a friend or more?
She sent me a picture of her having dinner with friends in my area and she lives an hour away.

She hangs out a lot in my neighborhood. She tells me she is going to be in my neighborhood. I have been busy at times but when she says she is going to be in my hood, I'm like okay lets hang, lets eat etc.. She INITIATES all the texts.

She asked whats a good lunch spot in my area. I was like hey lets grab food. She was like her boyfriends family is visiting and she wants to know whats a good spot. I was like try google! LOL.

What does she want from me? Should I just IGNORE her?
We used to hang out easily before but now I'm totally confused.
Why does she even make effort? If I'm truly in the friend zone, no problem. If she is sexually attracted, how can I tell. Its the grey area I don't understand.

look im going to be honest i didn't read ALL of that but from what i did read i think she's "training" you

by training i mean getting you read and emotionally attached so when things really go down hill with her boyfriend she'll always have you as a back up.....guys do it all the time and girls do it even more........she probably likes you but she wants to make sure she has you in her clutches so she's spitting some real game to you so you'll be fully developed to be her next boyfriend

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

Thanks bro. I like that way of looking at it.

I've been noticing that she recently does fb check-ins but does not tag her bf even though he is with her.
I'm going to try not to read into it too much. She thinks I'm dating other women which I am.
Its totally push-pull I guess and I'm going to enjoy this

you might like it now but be careful, girls have extreme game and you'll turn into a whipped little boy if if you let her get her way

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie