So im new here but I have always browsed this site, and love the advice and info on here.

My situation: I'm 22 in college, girlfriend is 19 couple years behind me. (Shes a dime)

So to sum up in short, she hit me with the "I need some space/time to think for a few days" line last night. She's very immature emotionally, and overreacted because I followed my ex-gf on twitter. (This has happened a few times..i was initially following her, and she will manually go on and unfollow her.) Pretty childish i know, plus thats my ex gf from like 5 years ago back in HS - but she's in the same sorority as my current girlfriend.

Anyway, i was completely taken aback and thought it was just the usual shit where she says "we're done" and i go over and give her extra attention and we make up. But this time she wouldnt even let me in, had to plead for her to even come outside to talk to me. She wouldn't touch me, avoided eye contact, and even laughed at me a few times because i literally got on a knee and pleaded for her to not do this to me right now, because its right in the middle of finals week and its a HUGE distraction.


She still said no, wouldn't let me come inside, and i straight up told her that its a childish reason to do this: Her reasoning's:
1. Said its the 4th time ive re-followed her and is convinced i still hold feelings for her. I don't, & honestly don't even remember the last time i talked to, let alone have seen this girl. Plus i have no history of sneaking around/cheating on her.

2.That im sketchy? - I haven't spent time with her much at all the last week-week and a half, because i've literally been busting my ass hittin the books for finals and studying. Im assuming she's relating this to being sketchy since she hasn't spent much time with me.

3. Claims im a thief. - This one is the real head scratcher. One time she crashed at my place, and i had to get up early for class...i had no money on me at the time and was starving, & didn't want to wake her- so i grabbed 5$ out of her purse to get some food. She freaked out on me. I just assumed the "Whats mine is yours and whats yours is mine" philosophy, but she still is being a bitch about it. (That was like 2 months ago)
The other "thief" thing shes drawing from, is back from the start of our relationship (prob like a month-2 into dating) i took a couple hydros out of her pill bottle that she had laying around and didn't really use. I ended up telling HER before she found out - but she still holds it against me.

4.Finally, she is saying that she feels like all i want is sex and that i use her for that. - This is hard for me to fix. I Fucked up with this relationship, and its in the "She controls me with sex" phase, you guys all know how that goes. But a couple times this week, i rolled over to her place and we had sex & then both times i left shortly thereafter (to study!) which really pissed her off to make her think im using her.( Plus i act like a child when i want it and she doesnt give it to me.)

Basically, she is saying the follow thing was the last straw, and she started thinking about all the things she claimed to put aside. She claims i have a lot of growing up to do, and shes fed up. I def. feel like her roomates (couple more sorority girls) are planting ideas in her head, plus i'm sure she tells them skewed stories to make me look like the bad guy.

So guys..what do i do here? I love this girl with all my heart, even though i know its a fucked up relationship. I'm a damn good looking guy and could get tons of girls, but i dont want that. I texted her later that night and we plan to meet monday for lunch or something to see if we can work past this. But i stupidly have contacted her quite a few times today...and she is still saying the same shit.

How do i keep her?
Thanks

Give her space, you need to respect that. Don't try and talk her out of it it'll only get worse. Right now this is all ego attachment, you want to know everything will be ok, but the more you push at her the more likely this will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

I think..... no I am certain that your honeymoon is over.

From here on you need to decide: Am I worth being treated this way, or am I going to stay and be abused. I know many will say relationships aren't about power but man you were the challenge and then threw it all away. "Begged on one knee and she laughed" Really think about in her eyes she's convinced you're not a man.

I speak from experience, let her go things are about to get very messy especially since you love her this break up is building like a thunderstorm beware. The sooner the better.

If a woman is truly into you, what more is there to think of?? Dude if you want something and its available you have long decided if you want it or not. Thinking simply means there's doubt.

You've said it yourself you're a good looking chap and sound like a fun guy, go out there and start afresh find a new woman in your life and don't repeat your mistakes learn from them. Move On you're still young!

AND FOR GOODNESS SAKE DID'NT YOUR MOMMA TEACH YOU TO NEVER EVER EVER PUT YOUR HANDS INSIDE A LADIES HANDBAG!!!!!!

Yea well our plan is to meet sometime Monday for dinner or something and talk about things. I didn't talk to her today, but she did send me a snapchat..?

I mean yea I just don't know if she is really being serious or not. She has pulled things similar to this..should I go out of my way to attract female attention to get her jealous to see I'm sought after?
Or should I simply pull a freeze out till Monday?

I know it's best for me to end things but I don't want to. That's what's so fucked up. Every girl I've entered a relationship with I have grown bored of, bc they are too nice and pushovers and there's no chase anymore and I move on. But with her she doesn't act that way at all, and honestly we fight between alpha back and forth and it seems to go from one to the other every couple months. That way I'm still in the chase so to speak

I've had a very similar situation, where my own insecurities made my ex feel insecure and that's very unhealthy.

I tried it all, all that I could to make her feel secure and once she uttered the words fed up I tried even harder and guess who ended up on the back burner (rocket science not required as a major). Simply put you've made her insecure with the ex you've been following on twitter and then there are the other issues (Mr. Long Fingers), but alas I personally think you've also hit the last straw you brought out a wussy side of you and she just can't take you back for that.

It's hard for you to move on I agree, but you're gonna have to swallow the bitter pill and dance to the music.

When a woman holds things against you its done, you're done, because whatever you do she traces back in her mind, whenever you argue she traces back. All that this does is put you in a weaker frame because from thence on all that happens is argument or issue -- she asks herself "He follows his ex, he stole from me, got on one knee like a wussy boy and and and''

You're in a very vulnerable situation right now, freezing out is not going to save you this time around. That's my personal opinion speaking from experience. Ofcourse we all here to give positive advice to guide each other but we have to be honest with each other.

Even if you fix things on Monday its gonna be temporary I guarantee you. Expect to hear the words "I'm not sure how I feel anymore, or I feel something has changed things aren't what they used to be" BE PREPARED TO LOSE HER!

You are the keeper of your own castle we can't decide for you but try offer guidance from here the ball is your court.

Go back if you feel things can change it will only be a learning lesson and thats what we want (whether we lose her or keep her) we gain a lesson.

NO NO NO NEVER DELIBERATELY TRY MAKE A WOMAN FEEL JEALOUS YOU WILL GET YOURSELF BURNT!!! It will be incongruent especially in the light of your recent escapades...So you want to make her even more insecure???

ALL THE BEST.

Biggest mistake you are making is giving her attention when she says "we're done". Think about it.

You need to train your woman like a pet. If you reward her bad behaviour (threatening breakup) with affection and comfort, she is gonna learn that pulling that bitchy behaviour is the only way she will get your full attention. When you put it that way, it's not really her fault. It's your fault for letting it happen.

Reward her with affection / compliments only when she does nice things for you: eg. Makes you nice food, washes your car, sucks your dick etc. Or when she genuinely needs you: eg. Death of a relative, hospital operation, birthday etc. Not when she is just being a drama queen.

If she threatens to dump your ass again, just say "Ok. I wish you all the best. No hard feelings. Take care." and leave. Break off contact for a while. Then IF she comes crawling back, only agree to a relationship if YOU call the shots. Otherwise just get rid of her.

I do agree with the above poster that you need to figure out what your boundaries are with people and stick to them. Specifically if she uses threats to the Relarionship as an instrument to get what she wants (you chasing) then you reward and reinforce the behavior by following after her. Next time she makes such a threat simply tell her it's not acceptable to do so and leave.

Let her go. You're still hung up on your ex. You're re-followed an ex 4 times? No way I'd believe you didn't have feelings for her. Unless your ex is posting twitter updates broadcasting the location of thousands of dollars or something, you're too preoccupied with her. Communication about the money thing could have helped like establishing whether it it's ok to take things without permission. But my view is the ex thing has her doubting everything else about you and she is right in some regard. You do miss your ex and if you want to follow her so much. I can't fault your gf for trusting her gut.

when trust is shaky it's time to let her go.... honestly you're both young... enjoy your life. Don't deal with that kind of stress. Plus the only way to draw her back in is to not give her attention or pay her no mind. It's weird but it works. I would just date more mature women to be honest though. She seems like she's trippin over the dumbest things.

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Update: she texted me today wanting to talk, so we had dinner and she just basically said her friends told her that I must be some drug addict IDK basically they just filled her head with ideas. So were good makeup everything's great: but tonight she wanted to have a "girls night" and went out to some parties, called me at 2am wanting to be picked up(she's shit housed). After I left she calls me from a different phone asking me where I am telling me her phone died. I told her Id be there in 2 minutes.

So I get there and her friend runs out and gets in my backseat and says "yea Cassie won't come out here she's so drunk" but the friend runs back In to try again. I waited outside for about...15 minutes. Nothing. I didn't want to go inside and get her out of principle..so I just said fuck it and left. Her friend texted me and said Cassie lost her phone at that house, and that she was home now but was puking everywhere.

I'm pretty angry about the whole situation...what would I do here to regain control..? Like I just really wanted to see her and she basically blew me off.

Love is just a bad bad thing when it starts making us men act irrational. I've been here playing superhero to only have her disappoint. You shouldn't have gone to fetch her. Regardless of her being drunk you shouldn't have gone. Repeat this again ''I SHOULDN'T HAVE GONE TO PICK HER UP''

Maybe I am being too harsh but the fellows can agree, it wasn't your responsibility. You didn't tell her to go party, now you woke up at 2am she's drunk can't get into your car and you left.

What did you gain from all that? You simply disrupted your sleep and burnt gas. It was a ''girls night'' let her look after herself.

I'm seeing a lot of my previous mistakes in what you're doing and this isn't going to end well. Bro jump while the ship is still afloat. There's no regaining control move on and leave this woman, I mean why would anyway want to go see a woman at 2am are you desperate? You are setting a nasty precedent for yourself, now she knows she can call on you anytime she's been irresponsible and drunk. Rewarding her bad behavior. Look at how she makes you prove yourself (insecurities).

We have a saying where I am from loosely translated : ''When the ears fail to listen the flesh is a man next way of hearing''

If you feel you still want to then : You could talk and tell her you don't like what she did etc but of course your value in her eyes takes a knock. Then what you do is ease up on seeing her, less texts, short and to the point, less phone calls less attention basically (Your twitter ex is gonna make this part difficult) remember she's still insecure SUBCONSCIOUSLY.

Sounds confusing but its the main card you can only play for now and then see what happens.

she seems like too much of a hassle to me. I'd honestly part ways with her... its your choice but the shit just sounds irritating to me.

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