Hey i'm new here but looking for some advice. Ive always been OK at talking to girls, having conversations, etc, etc. However I cannot for the life of me get past that point. I seem to block myself??? Is that possible?

For example, most girls tell me months later after they have a bf that they really had a crush on me/wanted to hook up with me but I never followed thru with it. This happens too often to count. Most girls tell me they were interested but I didn't seem into it so they gave up. Looking back I can see the signs but in the moment I cannot.

Heck, most of the girls I meet I'm just not that into long term so I don't pursue it. Any suggestions here guys?? I'm getting tired of missing out on all these ladies I had a chance with but who now have bfs.

Eye contact. Touch. Eye contact. Kiss. Eye contact. Cock out. Sex.

Easy.

All the tips hunter mentions will help to do the trick.

Your problem is very typical, you arnt transitioning correctly from "friendly banter" guy. To "sexually interested" guy. So you are going to have to leave your comfort zone and push into the sexual communication zone to advance; a zone which you will consider awkward and somewhat creepy at first even if just flirting. Calibrate correctly so you arnt too creepy

The easiest way I have found to do this complement-qualify move. Give her an attraction based complement ( a compliment a casual friend WOULD NOT give her), Then qualify her in a sexually interested way. Thats about as simple as it is going to get

I had your problem as well. In fact, I'd probably say now that I had better game naturally at this point in my life than when I started reading all of the routines and everything. My suggestion to you is that you continue to do what you do, but keep in the back of your mind the majority of these girls do want something more. I was a division one athlete, and I had a sister also on the division one team who would bring friends over all of the time from her team. It was always obvious they were enjoying themselves, and found me attractive, but I always "felt" it wasn't natural to go in for anything more. That's the big break through. You need to prove to yourself that girls do want you to take the next step with them, even if it doesn't feel "smooth" at first. Trust me, when I first started bridging the gap it was about going for it, and not about any routines that smoothly leads to it. Obviously yes you need to transition to it naturally by flirting and showing some interest in more as well, but you will have to take that leap of faith that if you go sexual, she will follow.

I used to have this problem too. I knew something would be going on between the two of us, but never acted on it and the chemistry slowly went away. Act on things faster. When you meet someone and the moment you realize there is something between you two get her out there with you alone. ^ As mentioned above you defiantly need some kino if you want to get anywhere. Don't just think that you like her, show her.

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Thx for le replies. Common idea here seems to be kino. I am making the commitment now to just become a much more touchy guy. I need to learn how to better and more quickly bridge the gap between convo and making out. Once I get to the making out I can kinda fake it from there. Its that gap that eludes me.

I am going to try more kino in my life and moving forward much faster...rather than months. ha

cool

From an inner-game psychology standpoint, it sounds like you're always "playing to not lose" rather than "playing to win". Try to close every girl - fail big, fail hard, but leave no stone unturned. It's easy to slip back into scarcity when you become even slightly attached to a girl, but remember, you're getting good at this and want to live in abundance and you become an overall more attractive and confident guy. Discipline is less painful than regret!

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Wow man you really hit the proverbial, nail on the head with that one. The scary thing is, if I look at my life as a whole i realized that I am "playing not to lose" rather than "playing to win." From the job I have to everything. Deep shite man. Thanks for pointing out.

I really need to start playing to win in my life, and it doesn't just start and end with girls, it has to do with everything.

Play to win!

You're gay dude. Face up to it.

Why are you worried about wether they "like" you or not? Just be confident and make a move!
So what if she rebukes you, keep trying till she says an emphatic no. If a girl is relunctant to kiss me I'll gentally pull her face towards mine and boom, the rest just flows.
Be perstant, consistant and lead with confidence. I know its easier said than done, but just start being bold, women eat that shit up, the worst you'll get is no, the best? who knows, but you'll only find out if you try.