I have always been that nice guy. You know, that nice guy you can call when you need something or the nice guy that listens to your problems.
I was never one of those soccer playing, athletic guys who got all the girls.

I wasnt an outsider either! I was best friends with all the cool guys, all the hottest girls where my friends back in school. I could listen to their problems when a hot guy left them or they had problems at home and shit. But no Girl ever did more than "just like me as a friend" (at least far as i know). I have to admit that up to age 19 i was overweight so i was very uncomfortable especially around girls.
Somewhere on my way i started isolating myself. I never went out with friends after school.
I never went to a birthday party even though i was invited. I was ashamed because of my weight and scared what other people (especially people i didnt know) would think about me.

Then this girl came into my life...I met her at work. For the first time in my life i fell in love bad and i mean BAD! I wanted this girl so fucking much. But obviously i had no chance getting her because up to that point I had no experience with girls AT ALL. You can check out all my posts on this forum. They are basically all about this one girl!
Long story short: I got friendzoned 3 times, i ALMOST got her but then she flaked, she still wants to be friends because i mean a lot to her but, the at this particular point she only wants to be friends because...I dont even know why...Read my posts for details...Its crazy! I still love her but i cant keep mind fucking myself and keep chasing something to might never come true. So even though it hurts i need to move on!
Now here is the only good thing: During the past 1,5 years i lost 50 pounds because of lovesickness for this girl. I didnt get her but i look fucking great now, and now its time to fix my broken heart, self-confidence with girls, and my overall social life to start a new life!

Anyways...Here is the actual point of this post:

I want to change and become a fucking "badboy"!! I wont let anybody use or hurt me anymore and finally become a man who CAN and WILL get the girl(s) he want!

So this threat will basically be a "dairy" of my way to a better life.
So what are my personal goals i would like to archive:

-Build a social circle and make way more friends
Even though i have few friends, my social circle is very small and i dont go out very often.
And of course building a social life/circle with many girls.

-Start a sexual life.
Not much explaining needed i guess...up to now its not existing...AT ALL.

-Get a girlfriend
I dont want to fuck every hot girl i can. Im here to find a girlfriend who loves me the way i love her. I know most of you guys are here for other reasons but thats just me. I want a relationship. I dont know what it feels like to be loved. Its kind of sad to say that but its the truth and i want nothing but a girl who truly loves me.

I know that it will take time to realize those goals but im willing to work on it! I will take babysteps but i know that my life would be close to perfect if i could archive those things and thats what its all about right? Building a better lifestyle...

I dont want to be that "nice guy" anymore! I had enough of this shit now! For the first time of my life i have to do whats good for ME and what makes ME happy.
So lets make it happen... I would really appreciate any help in the future.

A great self improvement guy called Jim Rohn once said,

"It's called a life-changing day the day you say 'enough...is enough'. Powerful is the day when you say 'I've Had It...'."

That's where you are, so congrats.

Also, learning from the posts here can def. help u to find a gf if that is what you want.

So like i said i will take baby steps.
So today i did the newbie mission. I thought it might be a good idea to do it at school (i go to school once a week) because obviously there are many girls my age.
I just said "Hi" to every nice looking girl. Actually it wasnt that big of a deal for me, since im actually not a shy person at all. But the reactions where really different. Most girls just ignored me. Probably because they where in a rush or some, i dont know. Some ( i believe only 2 or 3) girls actually said "Hello" back in a friendly way. And some just looked at me but didnt say anything at all.
Well... the result could have been better, but im glad i did it, and i will try to repeat this mission as often as possible.

Today i tried to repeat the newbie mission. Well it wasnt exactly the newbie mission but similar.
I was at a exhibition for cars and some stands had some incredible models. I mean like amazing 9´s and 10´s.
I wanted to take pictures with them but i was a bit "scared" at first to ask them. Even though i knew these girls are getting paid to get photographed i was a bit insecure...But then i said to myslef "fuck it!" I took the hottest girl (and damn she was a hot 10 for sure!) walked up to her and asked her if i could take a picture with her. Of course she was very friendly and said "Yes of course". I felt amazing after that. So i decided to ask some more models for photos. Only some 7´s and 8´s but i was happy i did it. Its still a bit difficult for me not to be blinded by the girls beauty...
Oh and the pictures turned out to be really good. Dont know how to use them though...

Today was my last day of school EVER!
So i decided to say "hi" to some girls one last time. This time most girls just smiled when i said hi some said hi back.
So i think i should take it to the next level soon and start some real conversations.

Unfortunately i have to take a break until saturday because i have a very very important exam coming up. But me and my friends decided to go clubbing after the exam so that should be fun.
I have never ever been to any club or partying before so lets see how i like it and what kind of girls i will meet.
One of my friends is at this club almost every weekend and he knows many many people there. He already told me that he will introduce me to some people including some nice girls of course

So it seems like i destroyed a relationship this week.
I basically told the girl (She is a solid HB8 i´d say) that her boyfriend is cheating on her and that he only plays this "relationship" role to fuck her.
She nexted him and now i see a chance there for me...She is texting me all the time, saying that she is so thankful that i told her about everything and she thinks that i am different from the other guys and she really admires me for being an honest and nice guy.
Well...on the other hand she said that she cant trust any guy anymore and that she is sick of men for now.
But i just told her that we should do something together in the near future and she agreed and was really happy about me asking.
Im not sure where this is supposed to be going... What do you think? She definitely could be GF material for me...But shes not over her cheating ex-BF yet.

Today i N-closed a HB 7 from work.
Texted with her today and OH BOY.... She is so down to fuck! She told me that she can fuck quite good and a minute later she asked me to come over. Unfortunately i really have no time today.
I never ever had a girl talking to me like this
I never thought getting laid could be that easy. No girl ever wanted that from me. Feels great though!

Great don't be making excuses. Get on it. Make time or the opportunity will pass you by.

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So this weekend i went to the mall and just looked how girls react to me. I didnt do anything. I just sat there on a bench and smiled at every good looking girl. I was looking great (as usual haha) and just chilling. There was this one girl who was really kind of interested. She was checking me out all the time. She was kind of young (i guess about 16 or 17) but hey it was just for the experience and she was hot.

Today i went to a bigger local event (kind of like a gala i was dressed up in a suit and looking great)
There was one thing i noticed...When i approached a group of people (guys from my school together with their girlfriends) they where all kind of cold. The girls looked at me but it seems like they thought i was arrogant or something. I mean yeah i was generally confident as usual and (just being honest!) looking way sharper and better than all the guys of the group. Do you think they thought i was arrogant? Because im really not.
Few minutes later there was this girl sitting on the table with me, she wasnt that hot but anyways...She was VERY friendly and open. She always laughed when i said something funny and she was looking and smiling at me all the time. So whats my overall conclusion?
If a girl is attracted to you or likes you, she will make it easy for you to approach her or interact with her. Im not going to waste my time with girls who are cold and bitchy.

Great thread!
You're kind off in the same position as i am, i want to go out and meet people, get a social life and become confident
seems like you are doing great! I subscribed to the thread to get some tips from you in the future, and follow the progression

So its been a while since I posted something in here so I thought its time for a small update. Hope you enjoy and give me your thoughts and ideas!

So just a few weeks back things where going extremely well with my so called "dreamgirl". We got closer and closer and all of a sudden I found myself making out with her on her couch. I could have gone even further but unfortunately her pill did not work (because she was on medicaments) and I wasnt prepared AT ALL. So yeah...
By the way...I dont know If you followed my other posts but I never ever had a girl before in my life. This means this was my first kiss ever! At the age of 21... Its kind of late but at least it was with a person I truly love and im proud to be honest!
Unfortunately things got worse after that. I actually thought we where going to be a couple soon BUT...FAIL!
Somebody at work told her shit about me. He told her that I told him about our private life and that I kissed her and added some nasty things I NVER REALLY SAID. And she believes him. So she deleted me everywhere and freaked the fuck out. She said that its would be better if we didnt see each other anymore privately. And that after 2 years of intense friendship and month of loving, dating, and always being on the edge of becoming a couple. She basically deleted me out of her life from one day to another. This was probably the most depressing and hurting thing I have ever experienced in my life!

So Im back to 0 now. Feeling kind of depressed and im not sure if I should move on already or fight for her. I mean...2 years...I love her!! And all that pain just because somebody lied to damage our relationship.

Anyways...I try to get good with all the girls (even though its just at work at the moment!) And it seems like they all really like me. Obviously just as a "friend" but im okay with that at the moment. They come to me all the time. Randomly hug me, come to my office to spend their lunch break with me. Sometimes its really funny...One girl leaves my office and the next girl comes in
Its nothing serious but at least some sort of distraction.

I also decided to change my lifestyle and my image a bit. I got a new haircut, Im getting a new car soon, Im planing to start going out (I usually NEVER go out at all!) getting some new friends you know...
Im not doing all this to attract woman in first place. I do this for myself! I spend years of getting other people to like me (especially this girl!) I dont even know who I am. I just want to do whatever the fuck I wanna do, talk to whoever the fuck i want to talk to, wear the fancy and flamboyant clothes I want, drive the fast car I always wanted to drive and just live my life. Because I live for me! If an attractive girl passes my way, good! If not, im still happy and free.

Do it man!!! You're gonna become a CHAMPION!

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Awww…I'm so happy that you got your first kiss. But everything that happened after must really suck. If she is so quick to take someones word over yours after two years of friendship then something is wrong with her. And from what you have written, you deserve better. Honestly be who you are and have fun, be happy. Go out and make memories. It sounds like you are headed in the right direction and love will catch up eventually. Cant wait for your next update. Im rooting for you.

So again...Its been a while since my last post, so here we go....

So after my dreamgirl decided to cut any contact with me and to basically "delete me" out of her life, I was incredibly depressed.
I actually thought its over...But apparently there is something like justice or god or whatever and things got better again. I know from most PUA point of view the following things sound needy as fuck but at the end of the day it was the right decision. So what happened?

After weeks of no contact I decided to write her a letter. Not a stupid e-mail or text. I mean a handwritten letter!
I explained, that I know that I made a mistake and that I take total responsibility for what I did wrong (telling private things about us to co-workers) BUT I am not going to accept that some people ad lies to damage our relationship or to basically tear us apart. I promised her to never do such stupid things again and told her that I truly love her.

Well...Nothing happened for about 10 days. Then suddenly she un-blocked me on "SPAM" so I was able to contact her again. So I did! We started texting again but VERY cold and distanced. But as weeks went by, and us texting every day, SHE started sending kissing and heart smilies again and got comfortable again.
Anyways we met up a few times after that but it was obvious that she wasnt ready to trust me 100% yet so the vibe was quite "friend-ish" at first.
So the other day she texted me that she would like to see me and asked If I could come and "watch the stars" with her down by the river. I knew that this was a good sign so I picked her up and drove down to the river with her. We talked a while and after some time I just HAD to start touching and caressing her again as I always did and she obviously enjoyed it. We went down to the water and I started hugging her from behind and giving her kisses on the cheek. Since this was the first time since like 7 weeks we got closer again I figured that I should leave it with that for now.
So yesterday evening she texted me again and we went down to the river again. Now...To make this shorter... We basically spend the whole night cuddling in my car, we were touching and caressing each other, It was REALLY romantic and intense! So when the sun rose again, I knew that she was completely ready for anything and I went for the kiss. We made out for a few moments and we both were really happy. I drove her back home, gave her another goodbye kiss and left. I was and still am so damn happy that I didnt give up on her and made the right moves without being to needy. She was all over me again.
Im quite confident that It will work out this time! I really love her and I know that It was the right decision to fight for her! I dont know how to continue now but I guess we are going to take "the next step" next time we see each other, and we all know what that means... Im kind of exited but not as exited as I was before our first kiss though...
Well, lets see how it goes