well to keep this short I'm in the military and when I came back from a deployment I was shot 5 times but I completely recovered in a month and during the time of recovery The female I dated came to the hospital everyday to check on me and I fell in love with her we started to live together once I got out of the hospital I proposed to her and she said ok but a year with us living together today she told me that I'm making our relationship permanent and we should see other options so I ask "so your saying were breaking up" and she said "no I still love you and want to be with you but I don't want to marry you" wtf does that mean and how should I have reacted to that

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Florence_N ... ale_effect

http://www.ehow.com/about_5602058_flore ... drome.html

Wikipedia link isn't correct about this in it's definition thus the ehow link(Or definition you can find online).

She has lost attraction to you. It was a mistake to live together and propose. The only way to salvage this situation is to immediately kick her out and start dating other girls. Unless she feels the fear of god that she is makin the wrong decision and will lose you immediately and forever, she will simply continue to let you down easy, keeping your hopes up, and eventually fuck a new guy and drop you like a stone.

Good luck.

Above is stupid advice.

If it's Florence Nightingale Syndrome(Which I believe it is) just get sick again and have her look after you. By sick I mean a serious case of the man flu.

It's not a fix because if it is FNS there is no real love between you, just infatuation for all the wrong reasons. You yourself said you fell in love with her as she was basically caring for you and she most likely got a high being able to care for you.

If you want to fix it take your time, don't be visibly upset by it but give her a token to signify you aren't exactly thrilled about it("Of course i'm not happy to hear it but I understand.") then leave it at that and don't make a big deal about it. Otherwise just improve yourself, don't smother her with attention and work on improving yourself sexually(Get googling interesting and exciting stuff -- you can never know enough about sex!!). Do this and if she really does like you her interest will be peeked and she'll be drawn more towards you. And by "improving yourself" I don't mean improving yourself for her, I mean improving yourself because it's healthy and makes you feel good and independent(Go to the gym, work out, socialise with friends, be happy in general and don't let things get you down).

I feel like both of you guys have a valid point the pua in me tells me to drop her because she probably doesn't even love me anymore and stop investing but I'm so fucking tired of having to start over on my quest for the one right female it's easy getting a bunch females to just have sex with but finding one that qualifys for marriage is like a needle in a haystack I really wish there was a way to fix this fast

and I already got mad about it when she said what she said so she went to her friends house so She already knows she's hurt me cause I rarely get mad

What do you want from it? Do you genuinely want to be with her and not lose her or do you just feel the need to be with someone?

If you actually want her back follow my advice: Go to the gym, socialise with your bros and work on being happy in yourself. She'll take notice, see the improvement and won't want to lose you.

Next her. "Other options"? IF you're going to sit on the pot sit on the pot, if not then get off.

Either she'll recognize she screwed up and come to you, or she'll move on in which case she wasn't worth the investment anyway. Win/win for you.

No offense games but your advice is stupid. The mans ex fiancé is now saying she doesn't want to marry him and that she wants to keep her options open and you are telling him to pretend he is sick and google about sex.

OP...I likely you have been reading these signs for a while now. It's over and only drastic action has a possibility to get her back. Tell her you want a break to think things over and kick her out for at least two weeks don't respond to her or be affectionate in any way. If she begs to get you back then you can re evaluate...otherwise, once a woman has lost attraction, you have to cut the cord. Anything else results in an even further loss of attraction.

Rubbish. If you want to lose your relationship go ahead and follow the above.

Too much ego patting on these forums.