First of all I apologise for posting in the wrong forum, but I have been reading in the relationship forum and posting for a long while, and I trust the experience of the guys who give advice here.

There is a girl who I have had a thing for for more than 1 year, and I am sure she had a thing for me too, as I got clear IOIs from her, but I never made a move because I always was in a relationship. I recently broke up with my gf, about 2 months ago, and last night I saw this girl for the first time in a long time at a ball party. I started talking with her, catching up and stuff, and very quickly, we were dancing on our own, away from our mutual friends. We danced for about 15 minutes, did a lot of kino, and she asked about my gf, and I told her that I ended it a couple of months ago, and then the IOIs started pouring out even more from her, and when we went to get a drink I held her hand walking to the bar.

Then we went to sit down and talk, which is when I intended to go for the k-close! But just after we sat down, she excused herself to go to the bathroom, after which she got shit-faced and started puking coming out of it. I ended up taking her back to her place with the help of a mutual friend.

Now here is where I need help. We met at college, and I graduated, but she hasnt yet, and she teaches a foreign language(her native language, she is a foreigner). She is taking a bunch of students to a restaurant tomorrow so that they can try her national food, and she invited me to come. Now the thing is, this girl is a good girl, and she has never had anything with any other guy at our uni, so it will be very hard to escalate without alcohol. Next Thursday, however, we will probably meet at a bar all the students go to on that night, and it might be easier to escalate there and get a close. I am thinking about apologising and not going to the restaurant tomorrow and sticking to seeing her on Thursday, where the SPAM will make it easier to get somewhere. I am not sure about it though, do you guys think I should go tomorrow as well?

If anyone has any advice, please tell me about it. The best part of my game is relationships, but I am still quite inexperienced in the stages that come before that. I am keen on making something happen with this girl because she is great relationship material, as opposed to my nutcase gf, and I really like her. Again, I apologise for posting in the wrong forum, any advice before this thread gets locked would be appreciated .

"Now the thing is, this girl is a good girl, and she has never had anything with any other guy at our uni, so it will be very hard to escalate without alcohol."

I see you're just brimming with confidence.

I actually think it might be a good idea to go to this dinner. While I understand that the 1 on 1 thing is better for general rapport, I think you can effectively use this situation as a DHV tool.

Women get off on different things...especially the ones that aren't very open and trusting. In this case, she may find much more value in you being able to interact with people and having fun than, say, busting out front row Yeezy concert tickets.

Trust is achieved in many ways, but part of it is trusting a persons intentions and their heart. You want to make a great impression? Show up and just have FUN. Don't nag her or try to get her attention. Just let her do her thing and you just pump some life into the party.

On the way home/after all of this, she will be dying to talk to you about the day and how great you were.

You always read about how if you want to get laid, just start doing laundry, dishes, massaging etc. Because the women sees much more value in things like repetitive chores, that require effort and dedication, rather than, say, a gift (that costs money). This is awesome news for us, because it shouldnt cost money for a woman to respect you (if you do have to dent the wallet its not ALL bad, but its not the intangible that breeds trust).

So have said all that, GO. Its a great opportunity to show another dimension of yourself and to make the progress WITHOUT the help of alcohol.

Go to this thing, show your fun side, THEN take her out. I bet the escalation will be far easier that way.

Good luck man.

Thank you for the advice, I agree with you completely, and I could see your line of logic all the way through. I will go and have fun tomorrow, and I will post an update later!