Hey man, your detailed post deserves to be dissected with at least the same amount of detail... especially since it's your first post - welcome, by the way!
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This is the 1st time this has happened to me, so I'm stuck. 100% of the time kissing a girl for me is a deal breaker, once I'm done with that seduction takes control and I win. I met this girl at a bar and one her over by using the technique of picking on her, 1st night I was a perfect gentlemen]
being the perfect gentleman will most of the times work against you... delete from your mind all the romantic comedies you have watched in the last 10 years...
[and immediately told her I was not to be placed into "The friendship zone" then we met 2 more times for coffee and remained a perfect gentlemen ending each meet with just a hug.]
Really, just a hug... and that's supposed to be attractive for a girl?!?
[During this time I was juggling 2 other girls, so I didn't want to hurt this one that I'm referring to lets call her Stacy. Well I was supposed to take Stacy to a Retro Party and cancelled on her because I had to much on my plate.]
Not cool... especially given the reasons you gave her...
[I told Stacy that I needed to clear my head after a bad breakup with an Ex and didn't want to use her as a rebound. 2 weeks had passed and during that time I stayed in contact with Stacy I finally cleared my plate and let Stacy know that I finally came to some closure with my Ex and asked her to lunch.]
Lunch date = bad, bad PUA!!! Lunch sounds like a business thing... seduction is best played at night and followed by drinks at your place... Lunch = do not pass go, do not collect $100...
[The day of lunch she asked if I would rather skip lunch and have dinner and drinks with her and some of her friends (here we go friend test).]
The you go... lunch dates suck...
[I said okay and we met, I won over her friends and engaged them in conversation throughout the night. During this time Stacy grabbed my hand as we left one of the bars. I walked her to her car and she took for ever to leave so I thought she wanted a kiss.]
Duh, good call...
[so I made my move and gave her a kiss. I was shocked when she seemed surprised and I didn't get the response that I get from every girl, needles to say it was a short 2 kisses and a goodnight. No passion, no I want you, no wow that was great... total shocker]
You were probably awkward in kissing her and your attitude caused her to be shocked and distant...
[The next day I sent her a text, she never mentioned anything about the kiss, or that I was hot or that she wanted anymore follow up. Usually girls beg to see me again and tell me how great of a kisser that I am. Well I apologized for being to forward]
Never, ever apologise for kissing or being forward or escalating in any way... you may apologise if you spill a glass of red on her dress or if you step on her foot and that's about it for apologies...
[and she text back "Yes it was a little fast for my pace but no worries" ever since then I noticed an ease back on the communication.
Do you think I scared her off? What should be my next move? I don't want to seem to aggressive or pushy? How should I play this out?
This is the 1st this has ever happened to me.....
Good news is that you are still in the game with this lady... even better news is that you may have time until the next date to catch up on your reading - The Game, Mystery Method, Magic Bullets, Revelation - anything you can get your hands on written by some famous pick-up guy will do... Get used to the idea that women want sex almost as bad as we do, and that by escalating you are fulfilling her desires, not just yours... no guilt (or strings) attached... Ask her out for drinks, go to some quiet lounge where you can sit next to her on a couch and order some cocktails, make a lot of kino and try to kiss her again... don't wait until the end of the date to kiss her (extremely lame) and if (and only if) you think she's up for it, take her to your place for some more drinks... good luck and keep us posted!
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