Hello,

Mistake:
So I asked the girl to be my gf. Stupid, I know, so give me all deserved flack. I'll accept. She said no, I thought you didn't want a gf as this is what I had been portraying. I had said I enjoy the single life. She said she wants to keep dating.

Background:
I've been seeing this girl about 2 times per week for 1.5 months. The past few weeks we've chatted on the phone about 4 times per week. Now, up to this point I have had all signs pointing in my direction. She initiates convos, she comes up with weekend ideas and plans. For some reason I decided to pull the trigger. She's a 9/10 and knows it and I've ceded power to her. I know I should have waited for her to bring this up.

I know it's an uphill climb, but is there a way I can get back on top? She's also a co-worker, but our interaction at the office is limited.

I've got to make myself a challenge again. I messed up, but can you guys help me regain attraction and leverage? Thanks.

Steve

Hey man, at this point talking to her about what you said would be even needier... so just play it cool and keep doing the good stuff you've been doing... have fun with her every time that you are together, avoid repeat scenarios, and do not have such conversations by your own initiative ever again... if she asks you about that, just say: "Look, let's just enjoy the time we spend together, without labels and roles, without pressure in either direction... and if at any given time we together decide we should go steady, we'll do it... if not, we will always have [insert specific situation that was memorable about your relationship]". This should erase the memory of you asking her to be your GF...

Basic general rule of female perspective... when the guy brings up the relationship topic, he is a needy wuss-bag, when the girl brings the same topic to question, it's all right... except when the guy says no, which makes him a douche bag player... you get the point... good luck with your lady!