This.

I suppose there's a possibility she's telling the truth, but her excuses sound totally FOS to me. I've learned over the years to trust my instincts though, so since you were there you'd most likely know better.

Good luck.

Yeah guys thanks for help but I'm pretty sure she is telling me the truth. I know girls likes attention from other guys even when they are in relationship...she might be one of these attention/validation whores.

I don't think she would suck others dudes cock and at the same time tell me how much she loves me and that she couldn't live without me.

I know there is a lot of horrible people in this world but I don't think that she is one of them.


The only thing now is that I keep catching myself thinking about what happened and thinking what if she is lying etc.


But yeah time will show. Thanks for your responses appreciate it.

This is far from attention whore behavior. From the messages sounds like she was trying to or DID MEET up with this guy. Flirting turns into cheating once you try to meet up.
The quote above you wrote to a poster whose girl flirting with another guy(and didn't talk abt meeting). The OP had the girl going crazy in love for him and couldnt believe she would cheat. He eventually found proof that she did go out and cheat. This was YOUR advice and you're going against it because your situation is "different"???? Anyways, good luck...maybe you'll practice what you preach one day.

Yeah things changed overtime. I think I become some emotional ghay emo faggot. In the beginning I was complete opposite.

However, if I did not fucked her good or if I didn't fulfill something else why she wants to stay with me? And we did had an open conversation about our relationship what we do/don't like etc. we had some problems but agreed to work towards them. And if she did cheat it would make sense if she wouldn't make any effort to stay in relationship anymore but now it's opposite.

But thanks for reminding what kind of mind frame I had before...I need to get back in that frame somehow haha!

Lol. Cheating isn't logical. Think about it...you are rationalizing. Every girl whose man runs off an cheats over and over rationalizes that he doesn't cheat because why would he stay with her. I can assure you, that as a former cheater you can fight for a rs when caught and go through shit even when you know you're still going to cheat. Every thing your girl has said I've said. "Baby..why would I cheat if I'm going through all this for you...why would I cheat when I'm completely satisfied (and was)...If I were cheating why wouldn't I just walk away now?" Few hours later..I'm back cheating. Heck, I know girls who have gotten caught, fought like hell for the bf, cried for the guy, pleaded, bought him gifts to promise to not cheat and then cheated with me the next day.It's not logical. Someone's actions can be 100% contrary to what you think a cheater would do and they could be the biggest cheater. That's why when you catch someone, you walk away. Flirting and meeting are different things. What if he had not cancelled dinner? Would she have told you she went? Would she have not fucked him? Your dick can be 15 inches and you could be a super alpha but a girl who is trying to meet up with a guy will cheat on you rgeradless. And trust me, one thing will happen here. She will hide it better. Texts, emails or in person.Passwords will change and her phone will be tougher to get to. Plus, how can you trust her? Will her conscience keep her from meeting up next time if she has not already? Anyways, good luck

Thanks neo good post made me think.


And actually it made me think why she did not deleted the facebook messages? Because there is an option to delete.

When she checked my phone and fb she knew that I will check hers...she even told me about the guy before I even took her phone.

It seems she wanted me to find out about it. Any ideas why?

I tell you why. She wants to get rid of you but she don't have to courage to break up with you. So she wants you to dump her. But since things with this guy didn't work out (he cancelled) she needs to find someone else first and she will keep you till then. The point is that she is looking to find someone else.
This is just my personal opinion so I might be wrong.
However. At this point it doesn't matter what we suggest you. You made up your mind. We cannot convince you. You will stay with her and learn from your own mistakes. I wish the best for you honestly.

AFC said it all with those last 3 sentences, OP you'll learn.