I believe sometime is best not to think too much... just enjoy!

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peacock gears

Well, at the heart of that statement, and others, such as "just be yourself" is taking yourself out of your head and being in the moment. But to someone who freezes up around girls, this is a pointless statement, it's like telling a depressed person to "just be happy".

They need to be set on a path to work out why they freeze up.

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Just enjoy was a bit of a game changer for me.
The last few months I've made, what I consider big progress in my development. Before when I was having a bad night (often as they are/were) the mantra 'Just Enjoy' reframed the same night for me. Enjoy being blown out it toughens you up, helps you to push past SP, shows you where you are in terms of development and shows you what you may have to work on next.
Enjoy the nights that you aren't 'on'. No-one starts their nights on. They approach and approach until it builds. You may never reach the on state during the night but you'll keep approaching anyway and start to slip into that state. Hell enjoy the nights you are practically off. I've been out a few nights recently with my wings when I was not in the right head space. I just said to myself "Baby steps dude. Baby steps". So I'm feeling shit, I approached when getting a drink at the bar (easiest place to open in the world) and step by step build my state. Granted I missed a few golden opportunities that night but it made me aware of certain issues that I corrected.
Ultimately enjoy being you. No matter how good your game is, if you are not appreciative of what you have and the skills/qualities you posses then you're not going to get anywhere. Ultimately a castle built on a bad foundation will crumble sooner or later.
I agree and disagree with Conker. I agree with the fact that without the information required to understand why one freezes up on the approach there is no point in enjoying that. However I disagree in the fact that getting blown out is the equivalent of a failure. People learn best from when things go wrong than when they go right. So yeah enjoy the freeze ups and work on the small things.
The ultimate thing is be active. Yeah it sucks and at times it sucks hard. Hell I've only had one F-close in the last 3 years. However now, from 4 months of cold approaches I've had 5 day 2's, kissed countless girls, have numbers (all blown out, it's all practice) and I've missed at least 2 open goals (F-close was so on but I just didn't see it). I have rebuilt my foundations and I am only now really starting to feel like F-closes are within my reach. (Note: You must remember that I am actually a pretty confident guy as it was so this was more just smoothing out the edges and then developing. Don't expect you may take as little time as this.)
I went very off topic there; so, uh, yeah, enjoy yourself.

- Jack