| Seriously! Why? What is the ‘PLAN’?
Be honest, ask yourself some straight up questions, and stop lying to yourself.
#1 Reason! You got jilted (DUMPED) by your wife/girlfriend, (WAH, WAH!) because you started acting like a giant pussy so she left? And NOW you want her back, because you feel you cannot live or function without her?!?
#2 Reason! You ALWAYS were a giant pussy, with little to NO experience or sexual contact with a woman? And now you want to be inducted into manhood and handle this part of your life?
#3 Reason! You are searching for that magic pill that will make that will make that #1 girl FINALY fall hopelessly in love with you forever and ever. You will make 1000 babies and live in the magic kingdom? (It’s next door to Never-never land.)
#4 The least likely reason! You have always been good with women, but you want to increase your numbers, or scrape off the rust, and oil up your skills?
#5 You just want to sell shit!
#6 You want to be ME!
Okay #1: Your endeavor is a fool’s journey. It’s likely not going to happen. It is very difficult or impossible to MAKE someone love you, when they simply DON’T. And even if you ‘get back together’, it will just fall to shit again anyway, save yourself the grief, I’m trying too.
The deceit in loving a woman sometimes, is that most women fall in love with assumed personality, but eventually we must live with their true character.
All is not lost, someday, someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else.
Face it, it’s time to grow up, suck it up, and move the fuck on.
Never allow HER be your priority while allowing yourself to be her option.
You just THINK you were happy, NO it was hell and you now know it! Why choose misery? Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, and choose honestly. Choose happiness.
Women are like roses, pleasurable, delicate, beautiful - ABUNDANT! Go get ya some!
Okay #2: CONGRADU-FUCKING-LATIONS!
You have made a conscious decision to STOP being a pussy, and find out what real pussy actually feels like!
BUT although this is a forum WONDERFUL wealth of knowledge and information. At this point in YOUR life it is FLAWED.
It is flawed because of the temptation for you to jump in head fucking first, study all of the ‘routines’ ‘openers’ and magic stuff that will have pussies dropping out of the sky and around your dick like cosmic ring toss.
It doesn’t fucking work that way! That’s like trying to wipe your ass before you shit, still hoping it will be all clean because you had such advanced forethought.
UMMMM No!
FIRST
• Make a plan, HAVE a GOAL!
• Decide who you want to be.
• Get in shape.
• Confront your fears.
Your goal is not to look for sex or a woman but merely to look for and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
Once we accept our limits, we must go beyond them.
Don't wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.
Take charge of your balls and DO the newbie challenge.
If you do not overcome your fear of meeting women or girls, all of this is a WAIST!
All the knowledge of a parachute would do you no fucking good if you’re too much of a pussy to JUMP!
Do THAT, then come back and learn, and share.
Okay #3: FUCKTARD! She doesn’t exist!
That’s is just your needy, fucked up background for whatever reason, causing you to believe you cannot survive without a significant other!
NEEDY, NEEDY, NEEDY!
Why is that bad?
Because being needy is emotionally draining and all consuming. Everyone needs alone time.
For the same reason why guys don’t like girls that are too needy... why would you want to emotionally take care of a grown person who is completely capable of taking care of them?
When it comes to attachment styles, there are two dimensions: fear of being abandoned and avoidance of closeness. A person can be low or high in either of these dimensions, which results in four different attachment styles: assured, needy, distant, and scared.
Some men just don't care, or at least they control their feelings even when around a beautiful woman, confident and independent.
But some are very emotionally unstable when it comes to an interaction with a girl. They are the weaker guy who can easily be taken advantage of. These are orbiters, always finding themselves in the LJBFs zone.
So the question is: What is it really that makes a man so confident and independent that even if he is extremely attracted to a woman he can use his brain too. And again what makes a man so weak that even when he understands that the girl is not worthy of his attention and doesn't even like him, again shows up and feels the urge to ask her attention?
I think that a lot of it comes down to perception and self-validation. Let me explain....
If you start off from the mental place that you are an amazing guy, and that you don’t need a partner (or anyone else for that matter) to validate you, then you are on the right track. The woman you become attracted to becomes important for you, but not necessarily 'everything'. You don’t depend on her to make you feel important, or like a man, or even loved, because those things are already part of you. Therefore as a man you would still be capable of rational thought, and capable too of knowing that your relationship MAY come to an end, but you know that wouldn’t be the end of the world, because you are a slick enough person to find someone else worthy of your affection.
Without those core beliefs and values, it is easy for a man to become dependent on his relationships as a way of making him feel loved/valued/cared for/respected etc. And so, even if the woman is treating him badly, he may stay around because he feels that his current relationship is the only way he can get those things. He may also be scared of dating again, and/or scared of someone ELSE hurting him (better the devil you know and all that). OR, it may even be the case that he is simply obsessed with the girl, and this is never a healthy place to conduct a relationship!
I would say the biggest thing that gives confidence is having a purpose/direction that's more important than the relationship. If you know where you're going and what your highest priority is, the relationship can never take over.
Honestly, I find it's much easier to be a good partner when your partner is NOT your highest priority. When you're in control of yourself, you can see how your partner feels and what they like more objectively-and that allows you to treat them as an individual, instead of just your girlfriend/wife etc.
Some people cite "The feeling that he can get another girl" as what makes a man that confident, but that doesn't resonate with me at all. What makes me confident is knowing that I have something I want even more than any relationship with another individual.
Okay #4: Your turn.
Welcome, but it is insanely possible you may be caught up in giving advice rather than gaining gobs of useful info.
That’s fine! It’s a great ego stoker.
But for fuck sake be honest, and from the heart.
You after all were in the same fucked up boat at one time in your life.
#5: WE ALL HATE YOUR FUCKING GUTS NUMBER FIVE, GET THE FUCK OUT!
#6: Not a chance! Nice wish though.
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