Hello all, I just Googled my way here and thought I'd jump right in. I'm 30 and live in Saskatchewan, Canada (eh) and frankly I don't have my shit together. I'm a life-long ultra-beta and roughly a year ago I started to dedicate as much time and effort as possible into improving every facet of my life as it wasn't what I wanted, and I deserve better.

As far as I'm told I'm a smart, educated, funny, kind, (somewhat) interesting & successful, in-shape, probably a little below average looking guy. I do what I want, have great friends, I've traveled a bit, know how to dress, and I'm generally pretty well off when you don't include dating. I've had a complete lack of drive, motivation, and passion throughout nearly my entire life possibly stemming from a shitty childhood that I won't go into here. That being said I think I've made some good progress over the last year overall considering I've got roughly 30 years of bad programming that I need to overcome.

Here's the big one (at least I think so); I've literally never been on a date, or even held hands with a woman before. Yes, sadly, people like me exist - weirdly enough I know another guy like that. And you know what? It's bullshit. I'm done with it. I deserve better and I'm 100% dedicated to getting this area of my life on track. I have a SHIT TON of work to do....having said that I've gone through a lot of material such as Models, learned various meditation techniques (literally changed my life and nearly eliminated negative self-talk), quite a few of David D's, No More Mr. Nice Guy (mind-blowing eye opener for a guy like me), and quite a few posts on r/seduction. Now I'm here to absorb absolutely everything I possibly can.

I seem to have no problem making attractive, interesting, smart girl friends. But fuck that, I don't need any more friends. I want to be comfortable around women, and attracting women. I want to have options, I want to have crazy one-night stands, and maybe even meet the love of my life. I think I can do it but it's going to literally be the hardest thing I've ever done.

Well I've been trying to embrace some of this vulnerability that Mark Manson is so fond of, so that's me. I'm looking forward to joining the community and I hope to be contributing some useful "A-ha" moments and whatnot sooner than later.

If it wasn't already clear, I'd appreciate any comments or advice whatsoever. Thanks all!

Welcome.

Okay, that's enough being nice.

Now before you read anymore or absorb any more, tutorial.
Back up. Look up the newbie challenge.
Do that then come back and ask what went wrong or right.

seriously do that.

Oh congratulations on your decision to get this part of your life handled, its not welcome to the forum, its welcome to manhood.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Appreciate it. I've been looking for some "baby steps", cause obviously at this point the idea of just going up and talking to a group of women is still mildly terrifying. One day at a time.

I'll do this within a week and post my results and learnings in the newbie challenge thread.

Hey Sifujon,

I'm really impressed that you found this forum and are dedicated to changing this part of your life. It takes a lot of guts to make significant changes. Congrats!

I have a good friend that was a virgin until he was 23. In the last two years he has learned a Ton about game and really dedicated himself to getting this part of his life handled. He has now slept with over a hundred women and sees the world in a completely new way.

I started pickup when I was 38 and had never been good with women before that. Now I have an amazing life that's filled with beautiful women. It's never too late to become extremely successful with women.

Welcome!