Hey:)

So this girl is very into me and I know this without a doubt. She sends me hearts and smileys and doesn't respond negatively to the crazy insane jokes. She also initiates conversation a lot. Calls me "cutie" and "hot". In other words, I am certain that she likes me.

Due to the situation, I MUST text her a bit more before I ask her out. Just TRUST ME on this one. Don't reply saying that I should just ask her out. I have to text her a bit more. If you knew the situation you would agree.

So i'm trying to get a text conversation going but the problem is that she barely talks.
Whatever I say she just responds with a simple "LOL" or smiley face.

Now this is fine with me because I can talk to a wall forever and still be fuckin hilarious and interesting.

The problem is THIS:

-----> Me sending a lot lengthy texts and her barely replying to them (with 1-3 word responses) makes me LOOK like I AM CHASING HER. And needy.

How do I flip the script? In other words, how do I get her to talk more?



I HAVE TRIED ALREADY
to tell her this and it worked temporary but the next day she just reverted back to her previous shy self.

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PLEASE HELP:) I'd really like to go out with her and bang.
thanks:)

What the FUCK are you waiting for? Pull the trigger and get her to meet up with you man. She's probably giving you "one word responses" because she doesn't understand what you need aside from the go ahead from NASA to fuck her brains out. She's probably starting to think you're a pussy who is too afraid to make it happen.

A phone number IS NOT a tool you use to build comfort. Stop doing that. Get her to meet up... make it happen.

Yep, with majikal.

Even if you can't "ask her out" yet for whatever reason (I am dubious, but I'll go with you), then you shouldn't be relying on text. You should still be meeting up/speaking in person rather than over phone if and when possible.

Also, is she actually shy? The only girls who I've really had to do a lot of talking with and who are very quiet/shy have never called me "cutie" or "hot" before we got together. Shyness is usually about not wanting to open yourself up to a person, so why would you call them hot/cutie if you're shy and hiding your feelings?

This, coupled with your focus on text rather than in person, suggests it's less to do with her being shy and more to do with you not escalating in person properly.

thank you for your input but i have already CLEARLY stated that this is not an option.
this is social circle game. i don't want to go into the details...

i'm waiting for a bit more of a text convo first.

tell me how to deal with the shyness instead

Please do not tell me to ask her out.
I don't want to go into specifics, just TRUST ME I know what I'm doing here. I'm not an AFC.


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I will ask her out VERY soon but now I have to first deal with this issue.

Please answer the question that I have provided.

Thanks for your input.

I don't mean to sound like a needy loser but I really want this work out.

If only there was some way I could get her to be more talkative in her texts...

i am calling her shy because she only gives one or two responses.
if that's not technically considered shy... then i need a new word for that then lol

please give me ur input on how i should deal with this situation by answering my question thanks
im kind of feeling like a needy loser right now with oneitis but i still need that answer!

Make your texts more interesting and/or ask open ended questions I suppose.

However, if you text her too regularly, she'll get bored anyway. I had a girl who I liked a lot, but every time I came up as "online" on facebook, she would message me. And usually it was just fairly boring, every day stuff. The first few times I had a conversation with her, then I started to give her shorter and shorter answers until I got so fed up I eventually just ignored her messages.

If you've messaged her loads already, then the best way of making her "less shy" over text would be to text her less.

And yeah, she doesn't sound shy. Some people just don't talk much on text/the internet. They probably prefer to talk in real life (like humans are supposed to) and only use texts for more "essential" stuff, like organisation and emergencies.

Text her less. Wait until you next see her in person and then chat to her in real life.

But if you "can't" ask her out, then where exactly is this going anyway? What do you want a relationship which is based purely on text messages? If there is a valid reason for you not being able to ask her out, then is she really worth the bother? Personally, I'd rather be dating a girl I can actually see in real life!

I have had this problem mannny times. And i just find these girls simply boring to talk too and i lose interest. But if i were you, I would do the the exact same thing she is doing. Be short in your text, send one or two word answers, or smiley faces. Do this for a while, she'll get the hint

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That's not shy dude... that just means she doesn't want to talk to you...

...Probably because you won't ask her to hang out already! She's most likely well past the thought of "Alright, when is this guy going to fuck me?" and moved on to "Okay, so I guess he won't fuck me. So when is he gonna leave me alone?"

Shit man... stop pussy footing around. Make the shit happen. Your window of opportunity may have already closed my friend.

The way that reads to me is this. You arent considered to be an alpha male within your group.

Therefore your wanting to see a lot more interest from her before you take the plunge and ask her out.

If you were more alpha, she would be more attracted and more willing to grab you first chance she could and therefore not be so shy and of course you would have asked her out by now.

Asking her on a date does not mean asking her to have a long term relationship with you, its simply going to do something together, it dosent have to be all that romantic.

Also from what you say, Id say you have no kino going on with her. I think this is the sticking point for you, you have no kino escalation going on and therefore the date, from your point of view, represents permission from her to kino escalate.

This is just not alpha behaviour.

It sounds like you have a lot of other stuff in your life to fix.. go fix it and these types of problems should just go away.

I will try this... this sounds brilliant

Hey guys, I'm trying to figure out what 1+1 is, but don't tell me it's 2. Just trust me, but you can't tell me the answer is 2, and if you knew what I was talking about you would know that the answer isn't 2.

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Thanks for giving me the biggest laugh for the day TheFury

I love how guys will say "I'm not being a wuss with this girl, trust me but...but I can't give details on an ANONYMOUS OBSCURE INTERNET FORUM...but I'm not being a wuss"

Seriously if she's into you so much ask her out. There is no reason for not asking her out.