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I've been going out with a girl. Its been 2 dates and shes been giving off all the good signs like touching, asking me questions, complimenting etc. We were supposed to go out on the 3rd date but she broke it. I told her to drop me a call to set another date which she said ok but she didn't until 4 days later where she dropped me a text.
Is she really interested, or is she just playing hard to get, or a professional dater?
Interest levels don't disappear overnight does it?
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She's a a hottie, a number 10 with 3/4 legs. She's smart and elegant and everything you could ever want? But....
I was dating Caprice (26/f, Lawyer), smart and beautiful. We met through an online dating site, where she messaged me asking me out for a coffee. There was instant chemistry and laughter in the air while we spoke over text. This was the initial stage since we've never met before. We set a date anyhow and this is where I begin my story.
Day of supposed Date 1
She drops a bomb shell and calls in for a rain check. I was ready to flush her number down the toilet, but she did give a counter offer. Since neither of us got too much skin in the game, she couldn't possibly cancel because she wasn't interested. She never even met me before. I relent and she sets a date for Monday after work.
Date 1 (Friday)
We meet after work for Dinner and Drinks, when I first set my eyes on her, trumpets were tooting away as the heavens opened. She was wearing a tight fitting working dress and she was hot to the core. We hit it off on the bat and the same chemistry was evident. Laughter and tons of flirting going around. Although she chewed my ears a tad with her stories about herself, it was better her than me chewing her ears off. I facilitated the conversation with more questions about her and when she asked about me, I always came back cocky and funny.
When we walk to my car, she holds my arm tight (Not common for an asian culture) but she does it anyway. When I finally drop her home, she looks at me with those Dole eyes and luscious lips, anticipating me going in for the kiss. I back away and bid my good night. She asks me to text her when I get home just to check that I'm safe.
Red Flags (1st Date)
1. She tries to pull a fast one by telling me she asked a friend to join us toward the end of the date. I give her an attitude and tell her I'm going back as its late, in which she changes her stance and says shes tired too
2. She was late for 20mins
3. Talks too much about herself but she did ask me tons of questions about myself.
4. Mentioned her ex and how she was abused by him
Tuesday (4 Days later)
After 4 days of no contact on my side and her side, she texts me out of the blue telling me she's near my office to run an errand. Felt like she was trying to get me to come out and say Hi, but I proceeded to bust her on stalking me. She liked how I teased. I ended the text conversation quick anyway without anything else.
Wednesday (4 Days later)
She drops me a text asking me for Dinner and Drinks the very next day for Friday. I call her to decline the date and we set the date for next Monday instead. She agrees.
Monday (2nd Date)
We go out for dinner once again, she drops all the I'm interested signs. This includes
1. Leaning in toward me during conversations
2. Complimenting my dressing
3. Touching my hair, my head, my arm (This girl is a touchy one by nature though)
4. Applying chap stick to her glorious lips and asking if I want any
5. Wanting to share food with me
6. Buying ice cream to make up for being late
7. Asking me tons of questions (She stopped being too chatty about herself too)
8. Gazing into my eyes
9. Buying me a CD to support a musician at the cafe we were at, as we both enjoyed the music
10. Offering to pay half the tab all the time (Which I of course declined)
Dinner and Drinks went well with this girl, she did ask alot of questions about me and I didn't like that the questions kept asking me about my past relationships and all. However when we spoke further and I asked her what she was looking for, in which she did mention about how her friends are all getting married (which came up to me that she was looking for something more long term).
Same thing happens, I drop her home, I could have gone in for the kiss at her door step but as a follower of Doc Love, I'm gonna hold back until she wants to rip it out or something. She tells me to text her when I get home. She did mention I didn't talk much about myself (I steered away from exes and heavy subjects) and always lightened up the mood. I told her that 3rd time's a charm and perhaps more on myself if we get there. Which she found cute.
Red Flags
1. She was late once again (15 mins)
2. Doesn't introduce me to friends when we bumped into them or introduce me to them
3. Her last relationship was 2 months ago (which screams Rebound to me)
Saturday (5 Days later)
She messages me on the same Website I met her on, telling me to text her. Which I totally saw as a hint at asking me out. Her phone was broken and she lost everyone's contact number. I didn't see that message but I already planned to ask her out anyway. So I did. We set a day for Wednesday. Wednesday comes and so does all the trouble and confusion.
Wednesday (Supposed 3rd Date)
I planned a beach dinner since she did mention she was having a stressful week, besides we were doing dinner and drinks for the past 2 at really noisy establishments. I text her on Tuesday asking her to bring 2 wine glasses in which she says ok.
So Wednesday noon she texts and calls a sudden rain check saying she has had an urgent meeting with a client and doesn't know what time it ends. She kept ringing my phone away afraid I would be angry, but truth I was in a meeting just couldn't pick it up. I called her back and I wussed abit as it took some prep work for the beach picnic and asked if she could do anything after her work instead. She said another time would be better as she didn't know what time she ended. She also fessed up saying she didn't bring the wine glasses. I was alright and told her I'll check my schedule even though she counter offered.
After I set my own plans in motion by going to date another hottie that evening (Which the hottie put up our dinner on my FB feed, I'm sure Caprice saw this but it was after most of these things happened) Caprice messages me and says she can do 10.30pm in which I said no its too late. I did give her a chance and said call me after she ends at 10.30pm to set another date. She said ok but never did call.
I was disappointed after a broken evening with no call even when Caprice had the time to mess with all her social facebook feeds and all that crap. I slept it off and went on with life. 3 days later and still no news from her, I delete off her number from my phone, delete her off my facebook and told myself to move on with life and I have done just that.
Sunday (4th Day from incident)
She messages me asking me out once again. I'm absolutely confused by this woman.
After displaying all the signs of an interested woman and then pulling off the disinterested play and breaking a date. This girl has got me wondering what it all means.
In my rule book, any woman who asks a guy out is a big indicator. But I'm thoroughly not sure what to do now. Should I cut my losses and move on with life or should I go out with her again. And if I do choose to go out with her again, what would you do if you were me to turn the tables back on her?
She seems to be feigning interest just to have nice dinners. hmmm
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