So lately my dates hv been confusing and I want to organize them and hv a rule of thumb

1) How do you invite a girl you've already been dating for a month or so. You can't say, "Im gonna be at x, why don't you come too?" Cause you already know her.

2) Also, leading is important, do you just do things you want to do or let her pick a place too. How do I find out if she likes where were going (important) or what SHE wants to do after. (I thought I could say I get to pick one place and you get to pick one place).

3) *How many places do you go on a date (I'm in Nyc) I know multiple places are better but it's harder to get too and cost more money and gas.

4) Weather. It's getting colder now, I wanted to go to the zoo that's in a park but I don't think it's a good idea since she might get cold, idk. What are good places

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1. You ask her as normal. No need to over complicate.

2. You tell her where you two are going. Not important if she likes it or not. If she likes you she will be happy with anything.

3. 1 place with a bit alcohol, then back to yours.

4. If the weather gets cold, go ice skating. Lots of opportunity to touch. Go in for the kiss. Then suggest going back to yours for movie, wine.

I'm gonna say I agree with the above comment. My rule of thumb is 3-4 places and make it exciting if she thinks you're gonna take her to a movie take her rock climbing. Just keep it exciting and unpredictable.

In other words, my issue is still keeping it fun after seeing her 6-7 dates. I don't drink so I don't visit bars a lot, but I could take her to one... I'm getting a hotel not to far from her she's like 40 mins away from the city. My plan is to go to 2-4 places (like the above poster mentioned) than back to my hotel. Where are places we can go that's unpredictable and exciting.

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DO you live in NYC? If so, the the answer is really freaking easy, somewhere local near your apt. Done. Drinks / bite to eat / it doesn't matter. I've been in NYC for 6 years and the key is to make the logistics easy as shit.

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You live in NYC and she isn't coming to visit you?
Stop over-thinking dating. Creative dates are a fallacy. A good date is about YOU and HER, not what you are doing. You want her having a good time because of you, not because you are doing a fun activity. Focus on a date with good logistics for escalation as opposed to creative, exciting, and whatever.

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Thanks for your response... I don't live in Nyc, I visit there a lot for work which is why I'm getting a hotel for the day to bring her back as a seduction location.. (I'm tryibg to do all this on a budget) So far I came up with a rooftop lounge in the city than a hour drive back to my hotel (which isn't too from where she lives).

I'm interested in the theory you just told me. How do I make her hv fun because of ME? And what do you mean by good logistics for escalation.

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Oh i thought you live in the city. logistics good for escalation means its easy to go back to a sex location if things are going well. One example is (as you are doing) you doing all the driving, so you control where you are going. Another is like i was saying, a bar near your house so you can easily walk back to your place. How to make her have fun because of you? Be a fun and interesting person who turns her on and interests her as opposed to thinking about fun and interesting things to do.

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Well I definitely am a fun and interesting person: but if you were to give me advice on how to do it better what would you say. Something's I do lack are being intensely interesting/unpredictable in convo's.

So far what I hv figured out is this: I pick her up at 2:30, go to my hotel which is 30 mins away to check in and leave my bags there (so she's familiar with the place) hang out, wait until 5 then go to a rooftop lounge (its 3 levels) there's heating up there so we won't get cold plus they hv inexpensive drinks and food, than we go back to my hotel which is a 30-40 min drive (maybe sooner). You get the rest lol.

Would this plan work?
ALSL: I heard it's a bad idea to bring girls with you to a club cause other guys might steal her?

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Sounds good.

The rooftop lounge is a nice touch. But then again, I'm partial to rooftop lounges. If there are sofas, use the. Great for kino.

Also, if she gets cold, that is just a good excuse to do some kino.

Good luck.

It's gonna be like 30-40 degrees, kino won't help much lol jk.
So how do I get back to the hotel with her? Letting he know in a comfortable way.

Side note: Fury had a good point, naturally I'm a fun person, but I'd like everyone's opinion here on how to be fun and interesting at all times. What do you guys do to be interesting.

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