Ok I was seeing a girl from another country when she was in England. We had a great time when she was here but we decided to just be friends/open relationship when she left for Denmark as we didn't want to do a LDR and we both really like each other but the logistics would not make it happen just at this time in our lives.

When she was in England she got VERY drunk one night and fingered a girl she was living with completely out of the ordinary . She would never do that and she was very upset and told me all about it the next time we met. I was pissed off but because she had told me I decided to let it go after a while as it wasn't a guy and we had never really defined a relationship status as we were FWB/Couple. She has since made it up 100 times over and I recently visited her country

So this is my question

She is coming to stay at Christmas and wants to spend a week with me however she wants to spend one night at her old house with her good friend. The girl she fingered still lives there and I'm not to happy about this to be honest and she already knows this. Please don't respond with "you should have a threesome as she is not gay"

Should I tell her that if she stays in that house with the girl she fingered that I won't be available that week. Ie Me or her

or


Should I just play it cool and go no contact when she arrives in England and resume contact again when she leaves. ie Let her find out for herself was it worth staying over missing me.

Ps We contact each other by letter on a weekly basis and SPAM once a month. We are don't ask don't tell at this time.

Can someone help please?

"we decided to be friends/have an OPEN relationship" What part of that is hard to understand?

Dude you really should have a threesome.

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If the relationship is undefined and no boundaries are really set, then not much you can do. Besides, if she doesn't normally do that then she probably won't.

Any more advice would be great thanks

Do you understand what open relationship means? Don't think you do bruv.

You've received the only advice you're going to get mate. OPEN RELATIONSHIP.