It is pure psycology! If you tell her (Insert ultimatum here) she will have a reason for the relationship ending and be able to put logic on the reason, and then justify why it is a good thing, ultimately blaming you for the failure. However, if you just walk away, it will begin to eat at her thoughts and she will not be able to place a logical reason for why you left. Her mind will begin to play tricks on her and she will start to beleive that she did something wrong (kinda like your mind is playing tricks on you now, thus making you think that an ultimatum will actually win her over).

THIS IS NOT THE FREAKING MOVIES, THAT CRAP DOES NOT REALLY WORK!

Peace...

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You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

Another vote for not sending it - in fact don't send anything.

The reason she is acting tough is not because she's trying to "impress you"! She likely does that to see how much of a man you are. If you send her all that whiny stuff, you will just confirm to her that you are too emotional for her.
No matter how you write it, this will make you look like a drama queen. Remove your attention and do whatever it takes to get over her.

Apart from that, blaming a girl for anything NEVER works. Withdraw your attention, stop withdrawing if she's becoming nice. That way she will realize she has to change if she wants to be with you - if she doesn't that's fine.

In case she asks why you dropped dead, tell her in the calmest way you are looking for someone who you can count on... (insert whatever is important to you). Never directly blame her. You are your own creator of happiness.

You both aren't getting the message. She's acting bitchy...perhaps there's validity to that but typically a woman doesn't act this way unless you're doing something g to illicit that. Your language is very accussatory, are you honestly expecting a positive reaction or more of the same?

You're also belittling her by mind reading assuming she's acting a certain way because of xyz rather than opening up with compassion and assuming good intentions from your partner. You're acting like a child who didn't get his bc rattle. Send this and I won't be surprised if you give her all the confirmation she needs to leave and not so much as even look back.



You're emotional right now, put this on pause and think how you may feel if you rcei dd such a letter. Reality check time. She has feelings too and likely has a very good reason for experiencing them. Until you get this there's no hope in abandoning your ego And having stability.

this was very good advice. thank you

i listened to this advice and to others who said similarly

i waited a whole week before contact and she got the point and started being nicer
if she ever negs again i've decided to respond with IODs and hard teases back

indeed you helped me realize that i am mostly at fault for her bitchy behavior
because i have been negging her for a while and she was just copying my vibe and mirroring my behavior
then when i stopped negging she continued....

and now it seems that she's stopping too

Let me quote a line from Inglorious Basterds:

[slamming fist on table]
NEIN!
NEIN!
NEIN!
NEIN!
NEIN!
NEIN!

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