I have met one girl (let's call her girl A) through an acquaintance of my parents, which I really like. The problem is that she came to me for job advice as she is currently unemployed. During the first meeting, I just kept it at a friendly level. However, after digging a bit further, turns out we are exactly the same age and she's totally my type AND single. We met for coffee one week after our initial meeting. Things went ok but there was no flirtation either. I did manage to build some Comfort with the cube routine, but I really want to take things further than that. She likes going to the cinema, so I promised her I will take her to this cool movie that few people know about. We are actually supposed to go watch it this week. I really intend to escalate things, but I am bit worried that this girl is simply not interested and that she hangs out with me for networking purposes. Sure, we have of common interests and identical views about life, but the spark is still missing. I wonder if this is a lost cause... but it's worth the try in any case.

Now, I have been gaming some other girl (let's call her girl B) way before I actually met girl A. Things are going well and she has shown IOIs several times. We even agreed to have a movie night at my place this week as well. The way things are going, we will most probably end up in the bedroom (unless I don't make any move at all).

To be honest, I like girl A much more than girl B (actually I totally dig girl A), but I feel like that I have to make up my mind asap as the dates are coming up very soon.
1) I don't even know where I stand with girl A and things may never evolve. I might be wasting my time in the end.
2) Girl B is almost a given and it is up to me to take things further. However, if things drag on too much, I will lose her interest

So, I need to make a choice or I may end up losing both chicks. Additionally, I don't feel like being a player and dating 2 girls at the same time, so this option is out of the question.

I really need some objective advice on this as I am totally stuck.
What do you guys think? What would you do?

Thanks in advance, mate!

Despite you not feeling like being a player, this is your best option. At least re-assess your reasons why you don't want to see how far you get with both of them for a short time. I am probably quite similar to you and more of a relationship guy, I value integrity and I surround myself with people who do the same.

But you are single man, see both girls until you made up your mind which one you want to keep. You don't owe an explanation, but you can still be honest with them in case this is being brought up. Until you enter a monogamous relationship, you can and should do whomever you want.

If that is still not an option, then go for girl A. The fact that you are already more attracted/connected to her than to girl B says it all. NEVER settle for second "best", even if it won't work out with girl A.

Hey cmd,

Thanks a lot for your reply!
I kinda agree with you that, since I am not in a relationship, there is technically no problem gaming different girls.

Now, my problem is that girl B wants a relationship. If we end up in bed, she will think we are together. However, I wouldn't want to give her that impression and that is why I have been hesitant to act too flirty with her.

In other words, if I sleep with girl B, it will be seen as some sort of commitment and I will then not be able to game girl A, whom I like more. Then again, if I spend too much time gaming girl A and, girl B might lose her patience.

My problem is that I do not have the luxury of time and must make a choice: either play it safe and game girl B or game girl A and risk losing both.

The other alternative is taking it slowly with girl B: I show some interest but never take it too far. I can pull that strategy for 2 weeks at most. Longer than that, she will most probably lose interest.