Hi, like most men I have an idea of what an HB should look like. Everyone has different taste but we all know what traits we would like our ideal HB to have.

Lately, I've been partying quite a bit and from time to time I've come across pretty girls that have given me signs of interest, even for a lay. That may sound nice, girls showing interest and opening you first and all, but then that thought of the ideal HB pops up in my head and I start asking myself questions like do I really want to have a one night stand with this girl? She's too easy, she's definitely above average pretty but she doesn't match that perfect idea. So I usually talk to the girls that show interest but I don't escalate or depending on the girl, I stop her escalation unless I'm too drunk but that's not a problem solver.

Now I honestly want to know why can't I go through with it? Now if you would ask me what I thought about having sex with many women I'll say that it sounds awesome. Could it be the way I was brought up or maybe some hidden feelings that I don't know of for some other girl perhaps, or do I simply have too high standards that most women can't reach. It could be some narcissistic trait of my own.

Thoughts on this? Can anybody relate to my situation?