I come from a tight-knit friend town. Gossip takes over everyone's lives. I've been a AFC and nice guy my entire life, and haven't even kissed a girl at 18. I've been hit on enough to feel good about my image and had multiple options to advance to a GF/FB, but was too much of a nice guy to act on them.

I've been trying to fix this lately, but am in a bit of a pothole. My reputation is a bit tainted from the nice guy thing, along with a couple of emotional stability issues.

From what i've read about confidence, I shouldn't worry about this at all. I'm doing my best on accomplishing this, but i've never had godlike coping ability, so it does hamper me a little bit.

My question is what parts of attraction within a smaller group is much different than attraction in a city/large setting. I have little intention of pulling one nighters, but wouldn't mind an fb if that came along. I tried running a search but couldn't find anything with less than 5k options.

My other question is how to redeem myself from this negative and innocent reputation. Is it as simple as just getting out there and proving everybody wrong, or is it somewhat similar to a friends zone? In addition, is there much else other than kino and AMOG actions that I could possibly pull to get out of this zone?

I understand what you're saying and i'll try it out. What i didn't mention earlier is that I only really hang out with one girl who is about an HB8, but here she's considered god because of the lack of HB's in general. I guess you could call it a bit of one-itis since I am slightly fond of her, but using logic I wouldn't date her even if she wanted to. I hang out with her friends sometimes, who I consider part of her "clique". My other couple friends are loners with no real links. It feels awkward calling up someone I haven't talked to in months. I think i'll just go to parties with her and attempt to redeem/meet people from there.