With success comes the expectation of success and with the expectation of success comes confidence. Sometimes people tell guys to just approach girls indiscriminately and just get "blown out." This may get you over your fear of rejection by seeing its not the end of the world. However, it can also cause you to start to expect negative results and that causes insecurity. You try too hard and you are compromising because you don't believe the girl will like you. Chances are you don't feel good about yourself if you are afraid of being disliked. After getting played or getting heart broken people feel really bad about themselves and they behave desperately. It takes sometimes to realize how the wounds have affected you. Sometimes people never get over rejection.

The game is really all about emotions so you really have to protect yourself guys.

Self-Respect, feeling good about yourself. Confidence, feeling good about succeed. Discipline, being able to deal with negative feelings.

Rejection is a part of life. Not everyone will like you. Plain and simple.

Until the day you die, people will reject you. You can either live in fear of being rejected or toughen up and learn to deal with it.

If you keep getting rejected you expect to get rejected.

What's your point?

The girl senses that you expect to be rejected and drops into that frame.

That's the point.

Expect her to go all woo woo and then barrel through autopilot and that's what will most likely happen.

If you keep experience failure you will expect failure.

If you're weak, yes.
If you're strong you'll stand up to conquer obstacles, if you're weak you'll lie down and become the obstacle.
It's been psychologically proven that the brain automatically looks at situations that have happened in a negative aspect, those people who are always sad, bring the mood down, who can prove their life is worse are people who don't try.

You have to work for happiness, you have to work to reach goals, and you have to work to overcome.
Otherwise you may as well start lying down because I will gladly step over you.

If you are weak it's not your fault and sometimes there is nothing you can do about it.
You build strength by building confidence.
You build confidence by experiencing success.

Do you think Tiger Woods just picked up a golf club one day and played a 5 under par and decided to take up golf?

His dad encouraged him at a young age. He took baby steps and built his confidence with small victories along the way. Block by block, brick by brick.

There is the answer to your problem...

I don't have a problem.

Rejection can ruin you man

You shouldn't "expect" anything but to fail... atleast sometimes... Shit, most of the time.

Fact of life: NOT EVERYONE WILL LIKE YOU. You can't MAKE someone like you. You can't EXPECT everyone to like you.

Not everyone's personality will blend with yours. You might be too high energy for someone. Someone may think you are annoying. Someone might think you're boring. Someone might think you're a loser. Some people might think you're really fucking cool. Some people might want to instantly be your best friend. You never know....

But simply thinking to yourself "I'm not going to get rejected. I'm not going to fail" is ultimately self destructive thinking. You WILL get rejected. You WILL fail. But you should embrace the rejection and embrace the failure vs thinking "its' not going to happen to me"... That's how you learn... By fucking up.

You should expect rejection and expect failure... But that doesn't mean you should get all butthurt about it. If Wayne Gretzky were to give up after he missed a shot... He wouldn't have as many NHL records as he does and be known as the greatest hockey player to ever play the game. If Michael Jordan didn't keep busting his ass after he got cut from his highschool basketball team, he would never be known as the greatest player to ever play professional basketball.

Being able to deal with rejection and failure shows how much of a true champion you really are.

MJ and Gretsky both expected to eventually succeed thats how they got over failure. Sometimes failure can take a person's confidence. Being confident is not a choice, its an emotional state.

Chances are most outgoing people feel like people will eventually like them.

They didn't EXPECT to succeed. They dealt with the failures.

Yes, envisioning success is something successful people do. However, you can't ALWAYS expect to succeed. You have to expect failure... it's knowing how to deal with it and overcome the obstacles that will allow you succeed.

Success isn't about the little things... it's about the big picture.

Jordan didn't win every game. Gretzky didn't make every shot he took... But they both turned out to be the champions in the big picture.

Bullshit. Jordan took all those shots because he expected each and every last one of them to go in.