Hey,

So I've been getting this a lot recently, usually after the first or second date; and I'm not sure what it is. I'm either dating girls who are emotionally unavailable, which is possible, I've dated a few coming off break-ups or there's something about my personality that makes me seem more friend material, thing is how do I find out? If I ask a girl she always gives me the "It's not you, it's me" speech. Given that it happens to me fairly often I have to assume that sometimes this isn't the entire truth, I need to know so that I can fix it.

Also I've been dismissing girls out of hand recently who pull this shit (I never used to, but I seriously don't need any more friends), is this always the best course of action or can you still game a girl who LJBF's you?

Happened to me a couple of times until I figured the problem...

You are either not satisfying them well enough or not escalating and she feels bad for turning you down, so she blames it on her for not wanting the relationship/date. The other choice is because she might still be in contact with her boyfriend or using you as a rebound to get him.

Keep in mind that sometimes the girl is honest, and there's a lot in her life that she can't take so she blows you off, but girls LOVE sex and would LOVE to have it with no strings attached.

If your game is solid you'll almost never get LJBF. The reason you are getting it is you're not gaming them properly, kino, eye contact, teasing, escalation etc. I get LJBF so little these days that when it happens im STUNNED.

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Argh, why does it have to be so difficult? I'm a pretty laid back guy by default and not the touchy feely type, seems "being myself" is a recipe for failure.

It's not about being yourself, it's about IMPROVING yourself.
Did you even know that touching when communicating is a major factor in many life aspects? Sales, marketing, pick up, business, anything.

Start practicing touch and you'll start having some kind of intuition on when to do it, you'll just get the feeling that you'll have to touch the person.

I'll demonstrate with a small example: Telling someone "listen" without any verbal contact would just make the person either look at you and not focus with what you are saying or tell you that he doesn't have the time and that he has to run. However, when you tell that same person "listen" while maintaining eye contact and putting your hand on his shoulder softly, he'd be more willing to focus on what you are saying.

That's just one small example and it's 100% field tested and true. From the moment I started to become the type of guy who touches when talking, I started getting tons of positive responses.

Give it a try, you won't lose anything. You'll have to use such things for the rest of your life.

He basically answered his own question with the "not the touchy feely type" thing.

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LJBF after 1 or 2 dates is a rejection, it has nothing to do with "friend material". It's just a way that girls say no.

Most likely, you are not building enough attraction. Would need more details to be able to give more advice.

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