Hey folks, as title above suggests I've just got back with the EX, and she wants to have a talk before we progress[even though we already had sex and she stayed over] any idea what this "Talk" is likely to entail?

No one can give you a definite answer with that info. But "talks" are never a good thing. Just be prepared for anything and make sure you don't grovel,beg or cry:)

Probably who she had a sexual interaction with when you broke up or to settle the relationship.
Most important thing is don't follow her rules, you make your own.

This. Which is basically the worst possible talk to ever have.Ever.


This is my golden rule if getting back with an ex (which is HIGHLY unlikely):

"Never , ever , talk about your partners / sexual experiences that either of you have had while you where apart."

I don't care if she says "You're the best I ever had and I never wanna let you go again" or " I've had better" , I dont wanna hear it.

That 'talk' is the biggest factor why getting back with your ex will fail miserably.

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Could be a good thing. She could want to get back together and want to have a defintive talk communicating and working through the problems that led to your breakup and how things can change going forward OR she could want to talk and say things aren't working out. From a sentence or two post, no one can knows what the history is of the relationship, what caused the breakup, whats been going on since then...too many variables and no info

Highly doubt it.


When someone says "We need to talk" , they actually say "Brace yourself for some shit you don't wanna hear".


The type of talk you're talking about doesn't require that warning.

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neo87 I was very AFC with her as I hadn't dated in 2 years due to a massive depression and grievances and we were only together for about 4 months or so and naturally because I was so AFC she was into other guys initially and the sex dried up [I hadn't read a thing about PUA or anything of that nature at that time and didn't know how to proceed] we had a couple of really nasty rows and I didn't handle them appropriately so I broke up with her, so that I could reframe and get my sh*t together before seeing if I could get her back.

I then got back into my NLP training[which I sorely missed] Went Anthony Robbins obsessive with it, got some tattoo's done, got back into exercising, driving, socialising, brought some nice new clothes, shagged 3 different girls, released my first novella, got really back into my business efforts, got a new passion in the form of airsofting and just generally got myself out of the funk I was in, I now know my own self worth and am back to being my own man again.

about a month ago we went for coffee and I kept my frame and at the end of it, didn't go home with her or do anything with her, then blanked for two weeks before inviting her round to watch some horror's on Netflix, she flaked once, I flaked once, she flaked once more, I deleted her number and then thought balls to her, then she texted me asking how I was after I ignored her for five days, then we got together Friday, drunk wine, watched horror's, kissed and screwed, now we're back together, but she wants to have a talk before we progress...that's my concern is that Talk is something I'm not sure of as to what it entails.

This. "we need to talk" is never followed by anything life-affirming and wonderful.

Not saying that "we need to talk" means she's going to sing your praises and tell you how great you are. But someone can want to talk to clear the air about things, and discuss how you can work through problems. I've hit girls with the need to talk line to tell them hey if we are at to get back together lets talk about the problems that led to the break up so we don't repeat mistakes. Someone wanting to communicate may not be the earth shattering talk that you fear and while problems may be discussed which are negative by nature, 2 people can have a talk and come to a better understanding and resolution to finally move on to a better place in their relationship.

She may want to talk about:
Becoming honest about the five guys she hooked up with last week (sucks)
That you 2 aren't working and she likes someone else (sucks)
That she didn't like the side she saw of you and she wants to know if you will go back to that (if you are better, this is an easily resolution and if you can promise youre not that way anymore things can get better)

Your situation is complex - depression, cheating, negative feelings due to breaking up with her,recovery, and flaking on each other. If she wants to talk before you progress either she is about to confess things so everything is out in the open, or she wants to discuss what happened during the 2 year rs.

this can be good or bad. but in my view it is good to think about the bad first. because if good things happen you can handle it easily. so go for it just dont take too stress. about talk, i think she wants to patch up again with you...