So i was recently talking to this really cute girl I met at work the other day. We went on two dates. First one out of state and second one she even paid for me to get a membership at the race track. First date we kissed, second date we made out. When we were making out i stopped it and said we were moving too fast & I wanted to take things slow with ther. I thought this might be a good move since i would have control of the sexual pacing from there on out and avoid any LMR. After that day she started a new shift at work and has become some what flakey when it comes to responding to me. I call her or text her then she responds the next day or two days later with a phone call saying that her schedule is messy and blah blah blah. Whats the deal here? Everything was going great now its all gone to shit in a matter of a few days. I dont think i did anything particularly detrimental here anyways. Advice?

I seriously can't believe you did that...

When you tell her that you should take things slow, keep kissing her, DON'T EVER STOP.
Kiss, she's kisses back? Keep kissing and say "Wow we should stop" or "Think we need to slow things down" and KEEP kissing her and getting MORE intimate with her.

The problem is that she was turned on, and you turned her off by backing away.
You can also put a stop to the first kiss, but immediately re-initiate and kiss her more.

You messed up, but I hope you learned.
Ask her for another date and f-close her AS SOON AS you can if you were able to do so.

I'll try that approach next time. So you think i'll get another shot or is it game over.

BTW i did this to prevent LMR from her. I've gotten LMR from girls in the past and there is no clear cut way to get out of LMR so thought about trying something different.

Actually Xoved, that's not really true. I'm just giving my 2 cents, but you really ARE supposed to stop yourself from getting TOO intimate in a non-seduction location. If you don't, you burn yourself out and it gets really awkward.

This is purely things i've been told and learned through studying PUA. Because of this, what you should of done Rockets was gotten her to a place where you really could get intimate, first priority. When it starts getting hot and heavy (Such as a make out session), change locations but don't stop all together when she is turned on. Even if its a secluded Alley way, escalation to sex is the whole point.


Then again, don't lose hope. You know what they say, you got there once, you can get there again..

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Most likely you did something detrimental to hurt the attraction and it likely isn't the kissing. Its not possible to tell from this post.

I know right. I'm just not sure what i did wrong at all. I called her back twice last week wednesday when i missed her first phone call. Thats about as bad as it gets tho. She added me on facebook. I started to have some trouble shortly after that. I really dont know what i did wrong here...