So my GF, which is a virgin, does not want to get into sex yet ( she is 21) I'm 23 and had plenty of girls, but this is actually my first real girlfriend.

She moved to netherlands from abroad. Studies here, does not have many friends here. She is very good looking and hence gets alot of attention, which she loves. So here is the problem :

We meet maybe once every other day. But at the same time she pretty much accepts alot of invites from other guys who ask her to come with them. It bothers me she says she is busy alot but finds time to meet these other guys who are obviously trying her out. I told her this and she said to me that the guys know she is seeing me. IT still really bothers me for some reason. I feel i am too needy on this and i dont want to be that. Could you guys give me some guys on how to get this off my mind.

BTW. One night stand are so much more easyier.

The thing I don't understand is exactly what are you getting out of this relationship? If she is not having sex with you and is constantly meeting up with other guys for validation, it just seems like you are just another source of validation that she keeps for herself. If she isn't making you a priority (seeing you instead of other men) AND she isn't having sex with you then I don't see the point in continuing to see you.
If you have any self-respect you will try to have sex with her. If she isn't down, you let her know that you aren't okay having a relationship where there is no sex and she doesn't respect you enough to see you over other men. It's one thing to be needy, it's a whole different thing to want to see your girlfriend.
Unless you are both religious nuts there is no reason to not have sex. A relationship without sex to me is borderline friendship. Sex is the ultimate form of intimacy and it's required for a healthy relationship.
You need to be willing to end the relationship. No woman is worth sacrificing your self-respect over. Being single is better than being strung along by any woman.

Hey!

Thanks for this! this is the kind of outside feedback i needed. You are right about me not gaining anything out of this and this should be be said to her! thanks!

I seriously don't see a point in this. Even if she is a virgin, you can still have anal sex. If she does not want that, I'd rather move on to be honest. You are being treated the same as the other men she's going to see.

Don't talk about the sex, perform and see what happens first.
If you can't please each other, then I'd friendzone her before she does it.

1. She should be the one bothered by you seing other girls
2. What are you getting from this relationship? Is it just the fact that you are around a good looking girl?

Provided (2) is enough for you NOW than its ok. However if you hope that by tolerating having no sex will result into something more than (2), then you are mistaken.

Things have gone in lightningspeed since i posted! No more worries IYKWIM

Simple rule brother. If you don't like something what she does, just say it to her. If she disagrees with you, simply tell her to get the fuck out. She is free to leave anytime she wants

It might sound aggressive. But no offense she is a stupid cunt and you should not tolerate this behaviour. By the end of the day, you are a man in a relationship and it's your duty to lead her.

This needs to include you (eventually) getting your dick wet.
Unless you are very religious (unlikely to be here if so), if you aren't banging her, you 'be' with her very long. Sure some girls (virgins, sheltered backgrounds, etc), may be slower to sleep with you, but if there isn't physical escalation, your relationship is doomed. Escalation in this case means at least making out, and working your way towards being naked together. Hopefully some of that is happening.

Its not a relationship until you're having sex with her

P.S. to the earlier poster, Anal really is a form of sex. I could give a pass if you said a 'bj' but as much as some women are all about technical virginity, from a pickup/relationship perspective, jamming it in her butt has almost equal emotional affect as vaginal.