I went out with this girl, f closed first date. Went out 2 more times since, f closed both times but the last one we stopped early...I couldn't get it fully hard cuz i was pretty drunk. Now I tried to invite her out for drinks this friday and she said she could go out that night but just as friends. I replied, "yep that's cool" after a couple more texts about something irrelevant she said "oh and I mean just friends, not FWB, no sex". Again I acted indifferent and said "not a problem, things were moving kinda fast anyway".

I'm pretty sure she's still talking to her ex so I'm thinking that's why she's gone cold but i also may have been too sexual with her without building enough comfort. I'm talking to a few different girls right now so its not one-itis by any means but still would like to have sex with her again. Should I still go with her friday and try to f close? Or not go at all? How should I treat this situation?

"Nice knowing ya sweetheart!"

You have two choices, dump her, or see her one more time and aggressively escalate. That will put her under pressure and the truth will come out quickly. If she still says "hey I said no sex!" And means it "nice knowing ya sweetheart."

Who knows why she's doing this, women are mental. Don't ever take bullshit though, it's better to be alone than copping nonsense from any girl.

This.

Be better in bed.

Also, it's called sex. It's called fucking. Please stop using words like "f-close," it separates you from other human beings, and that is very bad for your mindset.

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It's possible you just made it all about getting sex and didn't keep any mystery. If after the 2nd time you were confident you could sleep with her again, 3rd time could have been a good opportunity to find an excuse to mix it up and not end up going all the way. "Feeling too drunk" would have been a great excuse. Easy to say all this in hindsight I know, but, something to remember for the future.

For now the only thing you have left here is to disappear as fast as possible - but first have some friendly, good interaction, a really good funny conversation. Then disappear. Otherwise she'll just assume you were after the sex. This way there's that small chance when you randomly meet in the future she wonders what happened in the beginning and thinks maybe there's more to you.

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I would freeze her out for a bit. If sex is all you're after no need to be too aggressive. You did say you were talking to other girls.

She doesn't want sex with you. What part of that don't you understand? Either be friends with her and mean it or just piss off and stop trying to get something you'll never have. If you want to be friends with her then go. If not then just leave her the fuck alone.

Lack of ability to have sex is a big turnoff for girls. Personally, if a girl wants to stop having sex with me and be friends, I break contact a for a few days to a couple of years. A month is about optimal....

bla bla.. its just very low shit test.
You were very needy. yes. go out with her as a friend. Do not have WORD! about sex.
but escalate, kiss her, and build high sexual SPAM. you know..
when she drinks told her, som-like- youre great in swallow.
when she become horny. go for other girls in club.
kiss them, and touch their asses in front of her eyes.
then take some girl to your table and introduce them.
then send new girl away and have strong eye contact and wait for her reaction..
she will want marry you, at this point, when you done it well.

Hey man!

I've been in your shoes. For about a month, i was having sex on and off with a women who was engaged.

First few weeks were fine.
Later, She would say "no sex". but i kino-ed her all the way from talking to laughing to playful touches then once i go into making out and neck bites, she gets too turned on to resist. (During the neck bites, often rub my chest on hers, then slowly slide my theigh between her legs and rub there a little)

If she DOES resist during the making out or fondling. Just agree and say "we're not going to have sex".
Be the one to push her away.

Worked for me.

Cheers,
Hawk.

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The main reason that's working is you're taking advantage of the fact she's getting cold feet about her marriage, not cool.

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Figured I should update you guys. That Friday she actually hit me up and asked if we were still gonna go out. We did and I played everything perfect. Made her laugh a lot, kino'd a lot, she even paid for the drinks (I offered tip). We went to the market to buy a bottle of wine and before I could even open it she was on top of me in the back seat of my car. We ended up fucking (and it was really good sex too).

I saved the bottle of wine for the following week and she came over and we fucked again. Since then we've maybe fucked 10 times. It's a FWB type thing now, we talk about other ppl we go out with and have sex with. She really wants to have a 3some with me and one other girl too. I just gotta find another girl open to the idea haha.

All in all, I'm thinking it was a big shit test that I passed. She doesn't have many friends (we started out as friends) and I don't think she wants to jeapordize another friendship. When she saw I didn't give a shit about just being friends that was her green light that things won't get awkward if something happens. Either way, she's been coming over once a week where I fuck her once that night and once the following morning.

Good for you. Keep it casual. And I agree with whoever said "don't say F-close".

I would even go as far as to say don't say anything-"close". It's a sales term which has no relevance to pickup whatsoever.

You got her number. You kiss her. You fuck her. No need for the word "close" at the end of any of those words.

I agree, it sounds so unnatural. I just wrote it that way because of this other pick up forum i sometimes post on, where they censor words like fuck and dick, and instead encourage you to say phrases like f close. Its pretty stupid...