Hi everyone,
I met my GF about 5 months ago and since then we had such good time together and we love each other so much but I have some problems. My GF always mention that she needs to have friends to go out with them drinking getting drunk parties and all this stuff .. To be honest she just moved to my country so she doesn't have much friends and its like we almost spend all the time together .. I understand that it's important for her to have some friends but the fact that she tells me that she needs to go to parties and get drunk I don't like these things .. We go out regularly together and it's not the first time that we got drunk and went for parties so this is not something that she never did with me and she enjoys it when we go out together for parties and get drunk ... I don't want that I limit her or control her to do such things as she might feel worse that I'm controlling her but I feel that if we are in a relationship these things shouldn't be done ..,
Can some one please guid me what shall I do as I'm feeling completely lost how to control this situation ..

Many thanks
Barbo

Downgrade her to a fuckbuddy.

It's important for girls to have girlfriends, but constantly going out and getting wasted is putting her, as you know, in a high-likelihood-to-cheat scenario.

Though it would be difficult and involve lots of drama, your best bet is to start treating her like a fuckbuddy, since that's how she's treating you. She can go out with friends all she likes, but there's no need to get wasted all the time.

How old is she? She sounds young.

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She's 23 turning 24. Well maybe I wasn't clear enough .. She doesn't go out such often maybe that's why she all the time mention this to go out and in a way I understand her that its good to go out with friends sometimes .. The issue that I m finding a problem is about that she gets drunk .. I know that she loves and maybe she's not ready to cheat on me as we have talked about and she had similar experiences who somebody cheated on her so she knows it .. But we almost every time finishing arguing as whenever I tell her to not get drunk she all the time telling me that I'm controlling her .. I don't want to be an asshole who control her what to do but still I believe if I don't like something she should repeat it she try to do it .. In this way it beans that I cant tell her anything whenever I don't like something in her ?
How to handle this problem ? And is it good that I tell her about the things that I don't like ? What if she keeps on doing such things that I don't like .. What shall I do ?

If I was in your place, I'd let her go, but not get drunk.

Imagine yourself in a bar and you see this wasted girl, the first thing that pops in a normal guy's mind is taking advantage of her and that's what is going to happen.

Of course that's my point that she can go out with her friends but I don't like that she will get drunk .. How can I control that ? How can i control her in such things ? She doesn't like when I tell her such things as she tell me that I'm controlling her but I think it's normal that I should keep on insisting on things that I don't like and she should respect my decision ...

How can I manage this so she start to obey such things that I tell her and not like don't respect my decision. ??

Give her an ultimatum, in a jokingly manner, like..

You: "Are you sure this is what you want? No regrets? Dont Blame me if i end up getting drunk with friends too and something happens, something like a girl getting lucky with me haha.. ".

***Remember, the tone and how you say it should be with a smile , like a joke.

Then explain to her that, she is in a relationship, and that what she want to do, are for single people only. Couples talk, reminder: Keep the conversation FUN! as this will trigger her emotions to comply.(most probably). But, if she still wants to go out and get drunk. do the same , and make a random girl lucky!

Cheers!

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Project much?

Take care of whatever thought process led you to type such a thing, it's belittling to men everywhere.

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Don't do this. Ultimatums are expressions of powerlessness, and if you do it in a half-joking manner, she'll respect you even less.

Instead, realize that you can only ultimately control yourself.

While she's out drinking with her friends, why not go out drinking with yours?

Better than sitting at home wondering what she's doing, is it not?

Ultimately, the best way to prevent her from cheating is to have her respect you, which you can do by living your own life and not worrying about things like what people are doing with their free time.

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Is it normal that girls enjoy getting out with friends from time to time ? My gf and I we go out regularly and we both enjoy it when we go out together so it's not boring but still she's always looking forward to go out with her friends .. Is this something to worry and what should I do to avoid this from happening such regularly ?

A. Of course it's normal. Everyone needs time with their friends, without their significant other around.

B. I already told you what to do. Downgrade her to a Fuckbuddy, expect drama and be ready to NEXT her for awhile.

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Yeah, kinda wrong with the ultimatum thing, anyway, just show your "willingness to walk away" and she'll have respect for you, and live your life to the fullest. Don't waste time hanging at home .. go out have fun meet new people!

Cheers!

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I've went out for 4 years of pubbing and clubbing nearly EVERY single day, and that's what I see.
It's the truth. We are programmed to want sex, it is in our system.
Some guys can go against the idea because of their high morals, but others? I don't think so.

No offense but if I was in your place, I'd tell her she either respects that I care about her and that she is not allowed to get drunk without me being near her or it's over. You have to risk losing something to win something bigger. If you are scared to take control of such a thing, you'd rather have her as a friend with benefits.