Hey I need some advice. I currently have this fuck buddy I'm developing feelings for. I come from the school of thought that relationships or monogamy isn't bad and seeing multiple people isn't either, it all depends on what you want or need. Met this girl in july. She is young early 20s and I just turned 30. She is foreign (not a golddigger) and wanted to meet someone before she went to the army.

I thought no problem this sounded great, and I would go over to her house about once or twice a week until the end of august. Even though we used protection there was a little pregnancy scare and then her cousins came to stay with her for about a month and since I live an hour plus train ride away it didn't work with her schedule. She told me she wanted to see me when she left and then we met. When I am with her its great ( amazing sex, and get along laugh etc,etc)

We do occasionally text throughout the week, and I've asked her to hang out before to different events like concerts but most of the time her schedule is busy cause she has like 3 jobs, etc. I still talk to and occasionally go out with other girls. This girl I know isn't sleeping with anyone else and occasionally she does make reference to see if I am. Especially last time she asks if i slept with anyone in a month. In the past she's made reference that she only wants to bang, but makes it a point to send me messages on my birthday, and religious holidays , as well as other occasional texts that really you don't need to do if you just want to bang. Also she has told me she'd like to me to move closer offered her place to me when she left, was got me a little trinket when she went on vacation and was upset when I left it, and very much liked when I gave her a small bear since she has stuffed bears everywhere in her place. Not huge deals but I don't do that shit with people I just wanna bang

She was originally going to leave but this has turned into her staying for a little bit longer. I thought maybe she didn't want to get attached to someone but when two people are basically only sleeping with each other for 3-4 months sometimes feelings develop. Most guys would die for this but I kind of feel like I'm this older guy who comes over to her place when she wants satisfies her and then its until the next time she is around or has time , and while she hasn't said it would prefer I don't sleep with others. I'm the older guy who is smart, good looking, and very much satisfies her. You could call it one-itis but really i'm not asking to be a bf or marriage or any of that just like this week she has her period and says she can't meet. I'm debating if I should ask her just to hang out at watch a movie or something. Sounds like a good alternative to partying for a night. I'm thinking I'm gonna get some excuse but if so should I tell her how I feel or will it ruin a good thing.

Any advice would be great . Blame the long post on a pot of coffee

Maintain your frame, and just let it develop naturally.

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Well again I asked her to hang out Friday. She said I'll let you know. Told her i know she has her period implying that we would just chill. I have a feeling she will get back to me last min saying sorry can't but then the next week call me to bang at her convenience.

Part of me wants to not do that cause then I start to feel used like a human vibrator.

Then don't. Your a grown ass Man, not a boy solely dependent on her pussy treat offers. Your not Scooby Fucking Doo, waiting around for a Scooby Snack.

Build up the sexual tension, til she MUST fuck you.

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I agree 100% . I was just wondering if I should tell her how I feel, and what to do if she is too busy to hang out but then around to get f ed next week?

No, there is absolutely no need to start spewing feelings and junk all over the damn thing. At this point it will just come off as needy.

As for the second part of your question. One way to get rid of needy feeling is to take that opportunity and prove to yourself that you don't need anyone by doing things by yourself, your still single, go do what ever you want, go chase up some fresh meat, do this until you feel confident, like you want a fully time lover, but you definitely don't need one.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

The reason I ask is not because I don't chase tail or talk / date other women because I do.

I'm not exactly sure why I have to go find new people just because I may have feelings for one chick though , almost like the desire to be more than a fuck buddy is bad.

My question is when she is around next week and wants to bang should I just ignore her?

Bang her if you want, just don't inconvenience your self just for the purpose.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.