Simple topic...my girlfriend (of 10 months) and I have seen each other 3 times in the past 4 weeks. Before that, we were on a perfect, in my opinion, schedule of seeing each other once during the week and once or twice on the weekend. We are both busy people, and seeing each other 2/3 times per week was ideal for me.

With both of us working different hours, and studying at somewhat conflicting hours it gets hard to manage but, we have always managed to see each other at least 2-3 times per week. This is of course is up until this past month.

I'm incredibly straight forward with her, so I've told her that this pattern of face to face time is unacceptable. This past week(last Saturday), she flaked because she was sick. Granted, she was actually sick, but these were simple plans to hang out at my house which she could have easily done and I would've taken care of her.

So this past week, I still haven't seen her, and I purposely have been distant from her. I've dropped the "babes or baby's" at the end of my texts, significantly reduced my smileys in responding to her, and stopped the "I love you's" initiated by me all together. Being a female, she naturally has asked why, and I've told her that she doesn't deserve those things because she hasn't made me feel that way. I told her that I'm tired of having a relationship with my phone, in reference to her texting me she misses me, can't wait to see me, loves me, etc...instead of actually taking action.

Was this the wrong thing to do? Am I being needy? In my opinion, to see my GF at the rate that I have seen her this past month(less than once a week), I am not but that is why I turn to you folks.

Thank you in advance.

If she's already your girlfriend and you're in a relationship with her then you probably should be able to speak honestly with her and tell her what's on your mind... without feeling the need to game her.

You've already told her that the shitty level of face time is unacceptable. It's up to her whether she changes. Being sick seems like a legit excuse - particularly if she really was sick... And who knows - maybe other shit is going on in her life that needs her attention.

If the situation doesn't correct itself you can bring it up again, then make a choice about whether you want to be with a girl who's down-prioritized you.

I was quite clear that I have brought it up to her in a non confrontational manner. Since I posted, we have had much better face time.